2nd September 2019 at 6:04 pm #87029UnsureofeverythingParticipant
Hi, I was told about the website and that it
Might be of some help to me.
Not sure what to say yet, still trying to
Work out if I need help or if I’m overreacting
2nd September 2019 at 7:52 pm #87033EscapeeParticipant
Welcome to the gang!
That is a phrase we have all uttered! No you’re not over reacting xx
I can’t remember who wrote these words of wisdom on here but they said if it feels wrong, it is wrong; what a perfectly simple way to sum it up.
Reading others stories will help you see that you’re not alone in this and you’re not going crazy.
Also, if you haven’t already, have a chat to someone at Women’s Aid, they are non judgemental and very supportive.
Glad you’ve found the forum x
3rd September 2019 at 12:21 am #87077IwantmebackParticipant
Hi and welcome to the forum. You’ve been extremely brave in posting on here so well done in taking that step. I remember my first time posting, I’d read fir weeks before plucking up the courage to do so. Was terrified someone would know who I was, he’d find out and that by putting it out there, it made it real. Have you opened up to anyone before. Your doctor is a great port of call as are women’s aid. If you can’t get through on the national line try your local one, they’re usually found a few lines down on the search engine. Finally accepting we’re abused is one of the hardest things to face up to. Take each day a baby step at a time, there will be so many thoughts and emotions going through your head, everyone absolutely normal. There are some great books available to help you to, why does he do that by Lundy Bancroft is a good start as is the abusive relationship by pat craven. Take care sweetheart. Keep posting and reading others posts, knowledge is power as they say.
4th September 2019 at 10:15 am #87187EbonyRavenParticipant
Hi and welcome, glad you have found us. I too spent a long time reading and never posting, totally unsure of whether I was in the right place. For a long, long time I thought along the lines of the abuse being not as bad as it could be, and ‘only’ emotional. It was with the huge amounts of warmth, support and belief that I came to understand that there’s no ‘only’ to abuse. If it hurts, confuses, isolates, then it’s abuse. Simples (as the meerkats tell us).
The type of abuse you suffer does not mean you deserve more or less support, although it took me a long time to accept that. We will be here to listen no matter what.
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