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It’s been a lot of months since he left. He’s took a lot of his things but there’s still a lot here. He’s not got anywhere yet still with family.
I want rid simple as.
I have given notice for him to collect or I dispose of it.
He just wants it all his way still as though he got right to use here as his storage.I just need to have guts to follow through.
But now also worried it will cause trouble
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Yep. My ex sent people round (detail removed by Moderator) different times and still left stuff. My advice is get rid of asap. It was difficult for me because he still owned half the house so the solicitor said but I should have ignored her and dumped all his belongings on a third party from day one. Pack it all up carefully taking photos or get a witness to back you up that nothing was damaged then get rid of. Get someone else to do it for you if it’s causing you problems. I promise once it’s all gone, after the initial anxiety, it will being a feeling of relief. One less thing for him to contact you over. One less excuse. One less thing to be anxious over.
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I totally agree especially with taking photos that nothing has been damaged.
I had a family member who stored her ex husband’s things for decades because he wouldn’t pay for it to be shipped. She put it up the loft, out of sight out of mind. Her’s was a civilised divorce though, no unnecessary contact, no animosity.
My daughter packed up an ex boyfriend’s things because he wouldn’t come for it. She phoned his brother, told him it was outside in binbags, it was soon taken away. She did it with the help of a friend. By doing this, you’ve taking control of the situation.💪 💜 it won’t cause any more trouble,Maybe him shouting a bit,but that’s just him losing control isn’t it.
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I’m finishing packing up his things his weekend and finding it so hard. He’s taken his dog and packing her stuff is even harder. I think you should do what you can to get him to collect h8a stuff. It makes it more final. I think that’s what I’m struggling with 🙁
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I can’t really take it to him
Told him third party collection but by his reply he not going to do that. But he’s not welcome he was (detail removed by Moderator) last time good job had friend here.I was going to just get skip and donate to charity.
He’s took a load months ago what was clearly important. He even took all the dinner plates too. Took Tv even though kids here
But expects me to ask as storage for restHouse is rented in my name
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When my ex-husband walked out (ironically, although he was the abusive one, he left me and told anyone who would listen that he was the victim), he took clothes and other belongings, then came back when I was divorcing him and took other items. This was mutually agreed, I have to say. However, I got to the point where I just wanted rid of everything left in the house that had been a part of the marriage; I just wanted to start again. I emailed him to say I was ordering a skip and gave him the opportunity to come and get a few other things. He said he’d come when the house had sold. I didn’t respond to that but, now that the house has sold, I’ve gifted some items to friends, sold other things on eBay or have thrown things onto the skip I paid for. I don’t expect he’ll contact me to ask for anything. If he does, he’ll get short shrift.
Definitely keep all evidence that you gave your partner the chance to come and collect. You are not a free-of-charge storage facility. -
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My ex left loads of stuff. I shoved his things in bin bags and put them in the garage. He’s had ample opportunity to collect his things, spent too much time in the house, has taken what he wants…
When he left his first wife he brought little more with him than his sodding computer and a bag of clothes so I’m sure he’s got enough to wear.
He’s taken everything he wants and I don’t want anything to do with the rest.
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This reminds me of my situation. You do end up playing the game. Fortunately I had a garage to store it in, but he had stored it so badly a lot of it was dirty/damp. He sent a forceful email when he realised it’s condition would be poor instructing me to clean it! Needless to say I didn’t!
Just took photos and ensured I had a witness when third party collected. Multiple collections were arranged, id taken time of work, he wanted his parents to collect when they were here to see grandchildren. All twisted games.
In reference to the comment where they one took the tv, I will always remember my ex demanding everything (fridge freezer/sofa/tv/you name it). He was told that was family property and stays for the benefit of the children. I know exactly what you mean though in terms of wanting to start fresh, I think if he needs everything so badly take it. We will be just fine with our freedom thank you.
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