This topic contains 6 replies, has 7 voices, and was last updated by  Blackbutterfly 10 months, 1 week ago.

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  • #46704


    I need a little advice please.
    I was wondering if anyone has any experience with getting housed once they’ve been in refuge.
    This is my situation: I am preparing to leave soon but I will have to leave my job as my husband knows where I work. Since I have no savings (thanks to him) I will have to go to refuge. Is it difficult to get a permanent place to live?
    Also, another question – I know this probably sounds silly, considering the abuse, but we live in a nice neighbourhood, in a little flat with a garden, and my daughter’s school is on really nice grounds. I’m worried that if we get offered a council place (which would be great!) we might end up in a horrid block of flats with no greenery around. I know the priority is to get out but it’s also important to me what kind of environment she’s growing up in.

    Do any of you know what kind of places are normally offered?


  • #46747

    Hi Appleninja, thanks for your reply on my thread earlier 🙂 I totally get the fear about being housed somewhere awful. I currently live in a lovely part of the city and have felt very anxious and depressed at the thought of living in some of the places where there is a lot of crime etc. Nature is really important to me too and helps me keep my depression in check.

    I too have the option of applying for emergency housing but there are some truly horrendous places in my city and would be pretty sure I’d end up suicidal living in dirty flat in a high crime area so I’m trying to navigate private rental + housing benefit which is possible but difficult due to the discrimination against any sort of benefits. It’s probably different with each council but for the emergency housing option here they give you one choice and you can refuse it but they won’t give you any more. There are websites and lists of private landlords who accept benefits where you will have much more choice ie about having a garden etc so this might be a better option for you. It might be best if you aim for private landlords rather than letting agents as the latter expect big fees on top of deposits and rent in advance and rarely accept benefits whereas often when you deal directly with landlords they mostly just want the deposit and to know you’ll pay the rent.

  • #47093

    Hey HUn

    I agree with sunshine rain flower, she has guided u exactly what i would say, always keep your options open, sometimes u’d be suprised u can get a decent place in not the best of areas, i get as a mother we want to keep our children in best areas im the same, i was appalled at the housing i was been offered, hence i chose to private rent but have known some people have been offered lovely places

  • #55654

    That’s always been my fear of ending up in a bad area with frightening people around.
    I think the government need to see if there is any way they can group people together in a safe location as when you have experienced trauma you tend to be a very frightened individual.
    I’m moving on and taking the chance of what happens to me.

  • #55671

    Hello there,
    I would like to offer something.
    I left refuge with my daughter then aged (detail removed by Moderator) years ago.

    I too had the same worries.

    However we ended up being offered a (detail removed by Moderator) place – albeit in what can be described as a rough neighbourhood.

    We couldn’t have been happier in our flat actually as it is very cheap rent, incredibly warm and very low heating costs. It is also so quiet you could hear a pin drop.

    Also two streets odd from the local school.

    I can’t pretend it wasn’t a scary journey and at times very painful. But we go to sleep at night and that part of it is utterly peaceful.

    Much love you you.

    all best
    me and daughter

  • #56475

    It depends in which borough the refuge is.
    Look for a refuge in a pretty borough with lots of parks and greenery, then the housing is not so bad.
    It takes very long anyway and you may be sent to a private landlord, because the greedy government does not rehouse abused women easily.
    You may have to live more than two years in a refuge.
    Be prepared for that.
    That’s why it is good to look out for a pretty borough.

  • #65368

    Hi all.

    I saw this post and thought I’d cherp in 🙂

    When I was in refuge I was scared of where I would be, but I got to pick where I went, I got to bid on several houses and I ended up with a really nice house in a lovely area 🙂

    Hope this helps

    Blackbutterfly 🦋

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