This topic contains 3 replies, has 3 voices, and was last updated by  Wants To Help 2 weeks, 3 days ago.

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  • #103835
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    I’ve been out of the relationship for (detail removed by moderator) and have been lucky enough to be able to go no contact, and he doesn’t see the children either. I don’t have any feelings towards him and don’t think I ever really loved him, and I feel so relieved to have him out of our lives, but I feel as though I’m constantly assaulted by memories and flashbacks, and day to day things trigger memories that make me feel repulsed, as though I can’t stand even the slightest reminder of him. Has anyone else experienced this? We were together for (detail removed by moderator) so I get that it will take time to get over all the horrific things that happened, but does anyone have any advice for how I can speed things along a bit?! Generally I feel so happy and positive about the future and hate that he is still in my head so much. Thank you in advance x


  • #103839

    Hi dear,

    Unfortunately i dont have any advice to give you as I have just started my new life without my ex (detail removed by moderator) ago.
    I have the same questions as you have.
    I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone, to remind you that you are strong and eventually it might come to pass, as they say time is a healer.
    A big hug,
    Stay safe.


    • #103841
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      I think we must have replied to each other’s posts at the same time! Thank you, that’s really made me smile. Take care xx

  • #103846
     Wants To Help 

    Hi ladies,

    Have either of you had any counselling for what you have been through? There is often delayed trauma, in some cases full on PTSD for what we have been through.

    You can Google your local DA Support Services and see if they have a DACS (Domestic Abuse Counselling Service) in your area. They specialise in DA but often there is quite a waiting list for this. Your local GP will have a Counsellor at the surgery too, but they are not particularly specialised in one area of trauma. Again, there may be a waiting list.

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