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      Hi everyone
      I’m new to this and desperately trying to reach out so people who can understand me.
      I was with my ex partner for just over (detail removed by Moderator). Our relationship become mentally and verbally abusive pretty quick and suddenly my life was in his hands. Constantly blinded by his up and down moods and abuse to love bombing. Our relationship came to and end abruptly due to him going to prison. I spent the next (detail removed by Moderator) months walking with my head in shame. I couldn’t move past the guilt I was feeling for the outcome. I thought I was healing when the new year started but I couldn’t stop myself reaching out to him. We started our relationship again for around (detail removed by Moderator) months until very recently. He is now back in custody. I feel completely alone and overwhelmed. I don’t want to go on like this and I don’t know how I can move on. I know this isn’t what I want, that life, but is it love or is it control? I don’t know where to start with trying to heal. I don’t know anyone personally who can relate to me and my situation so I’m reaching out here in the hope someone can help.
      Thankyou all in advance. X

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      Main Moderator

      Hi Tryingtolovemyself,

      Thank you for sharing about what you are going through and how you are feeling. I hope it has helped to post to others who will relate and understand. You might want to explore Bloom- they offer free online courses created by or in partnership with therapists specialising in trauma. These courses can be accessed in your own time and at your own pace and cover topics such as trauma, abuse and boundaries- here

      Keep posting when you can, it can really help to offload here.

      Best wishes,


    • #165901

      Hi there,

      Congratulations on finding forum.

      For me it was a “final straw”.

      I am continuing to move on this year and remove all ties.

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