This topic contains 9 replies, has 6 voices, and was last updated by  gran 1 month, 3 weeks ago.

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  • #100554
     gran 
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    do as i say,not as i do.
    these are the rules
    i have to live through,
    a hypocrite
    ruling my life,
    who treats me like a dod
    not as his wife
    who i have to obey,
    live under his rule
    i’m tired of being
    a bullied fool
    i want to escape
    so what’s stopping me
    when all that i want
    is to be free.,
    by gran xx

  • #100562
     Iwantmeback 
    Participant

    Hi gran, perfectly summed up.💜💜 Trauma bonding is what stops us breaking free, once we start to take back control of our lives, those bonds do lessen.
    Hope today finds you getting stronger and taking some little form of control back, in whatever shape.
    IWMB

  • #100565
     Scapegoat 
    Participant

    Wow, you could have written that about my life…do you know my oh?! Like IWMB says- sums it up perfectly.
    Really isn’t funny though, what’s more they seem to genuinely believe they are the victims.
    I really think I am going to lose the plot shortly.
    Much love your way ❤️🌈

  • #100569
     gran 
    Participant

    thank you, iwantmeback and scapebook, i meant dog by the way not dod, although he does make me feel like a dud. yesthey truly do believe they are our victims, are you watching coronation street at the moment,there is a woman getting coercively controlled, do you see any similarities in your relationships, i certainly do. love and happiness in future toboth of you. love gran x*x

  • #100571
     Iwantmeback 
    Participant

    Hi gran, can’t watch corry. Too familiar in certain ways. Caught it a few weeks back, Tracey having a go at Peter when he pulled out of buying their dad’s house, she was totally wicked. That was enough to set me into panic mode. Never mind Geoff and Yasmin storyline.

  • #100573
     HunkyDory 
    Participant

    Beautiful Gran, I love your poetry x❤️❤️

  • #100585
     HopeLifeJoy 
    Participant

    Your poem is so beautiful gran. Thank you for sharing. Abusers are indeed having two different sets of rules, a good one for themselves and degrading one for us. It’s not fair.
    How you holding up? Are you going out regularly to charge up on fresh air? I dearly hope so, it’s vital for our health but also mental strength at the moment. I find seeing nature, flowers and birds pacing its usual rhythm quite reassuring. I also enjoy seeing the sidewalks full of childrens drawings. They’ve numbered and colored a ladder surrounding my entire block, one that went up to 900!!!
    Wishing you well. Sending you lots of love 💕🌸☀️🌿

  • #100611
     gran 
    Participant

    dear hopelifejoy and hunkydory and iwant meback, thank you for your posts, coming on here really helps me, i dont like to burden my kids, i’m not allowed to make friends so this forum is my saviour and ifeel like you are all friends, yeshopelifejoy i am going out for walks about twice a week with my husband, he is not usually so bad during daytime although still controlling. it is night time when he turns really nasty. love to everyone from gran x*x

  • #100630
     Fudgecake 
    Participant

    Thank you for sharing this, Gran 😊

  • #100644
     gran 
    Participant

    your welcome fudgecake, love gran xx

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