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    • #134001

      I put wallpaper up, I did an entire wall…. I am so proud of myself as for decades (with him!) I was told no, he would do it (but he never did), I can’t do it, laughing at me being useless at any DIY…. I totally believed him in the end but yesterday I wallpapered my lounge and I smiled so much 😁

    • #134010

      Hey, fantastic! It’s wonderful finding out how much we can do when left to our own devices and unemcumbered by negativity, belittlement and abuse. I’m currently doing my own little DIY project – not sure that I’m quite ready for wall papering yet though. 😮

    • #134019

      I remember those feelings. My ex destroyed my self confidence, made me feel so reliant on him which is what abusers do. I know the pride you feel and this is just the beginning. That girl who was there pre abuse is still there. Bring her out x

    • #134021

      Well done, when they tell us often enough that we are useless we start to believe them, and realise that it is easier to give in. When we start to believe in our selves the sky is the limit, we can do anything, usually better then them, keep standing back and look at what you have done and be proud of you.

    • #134835
      Put the kettle on

      Well done on the wall papering, it’s a great feeling isn’t it when you realise how much you are able to do yourself.

    • #134855

      Yes well done. That is a big achievement.

      I’ve kind of had a list of things in my head since I left that I’ve wanted to ‘reclaim’.

      Each time I stand in front of the task like a mountain feeling scared. But like the mountain goat I am I take steps and before I know it I am on the top of the mountain, seeing further…

      Next task for me learning to drive again, but that is another thread…

    • #134922

      That’s amazing – well done!!!

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