My ex was controlled, manipulative & i believe calculated, this was all done without a raised voice or physical violence and with a smile on his face. I was gaslighted to hell, his actions & words didn’t match & i was so terribly confused. BUT, occasionally his mask slipped & i saw him in another light, his look of pure contempt at me captured in the photo, when he said to me as cool as a cucumber “I can pick you up and I can put you down “.😑 once you see them for who they are i think they are easier to manage.