I just want advice

[LavanderPurple11]

I don’t think what I’m going through is abuse. It’s in this weird middle ground.

I think my autonomy gets stepped on a little but because I’m disabled it’s done in the idea of keeping me safe or that I just won’t understand whatever’s going on.

This affects my financial independence. I’ve been told I really shouldn’t have money, this is not true. I’ve checked. My personal bank account is only partially in my control. There have been payments made I haven’t authorised. Or authorised payments I was told would be paid back to me only for that to be taken back later.

My money is not being spent on nonsense, it’s being spent smartly on important stuff.

This makes me look like I’m being unreasonable and that I don’t understand what’s happening when I question what’s going on. I’m not sure, I might not understand everything. I need the support of others which means I can’t just kick them out of my bank account.

I know, I’m an extra person on the bills and food costs as well. But I know they get money for me already. I brought up the idea of rent but nothing, I don’t understand.

[Put the kettle on]

Can you speak to your bank, doctor or even a solicitor to get some advice? It sounds like you have a good understanding of your finances and I’d be concerned why unauthorized payments are coming out. Do you trust whoever has access to your accounts? Can you change the person?

Sorry I can’t offer any real advice

[LavanderPurple11]

Doctors and Solicitors are a no go.

I do trust the people making the payments which makes it worse honestly.
I know the money is being spent on something big and important and it will benefit me in the end

It’s not that big a deal if they need the money but it annoys me that they don’t respect me and won’t keep their promises and don’t communicate with me about it.

I don’t think I can change/kick the person out my bank account unless I leave.

Your advice was great! I hadn’t even considered talk to a Doctor or Solicitor about it. It’s a shame it won’t work out for me personally though.

Thank you for the advice!

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