I lit a match.

[browneyedmum]

Yeah, I’m pretty sure I just lit a match where I’ve been a bit ahead of my ex’s game.

So… my ex moved out recently. We were already separated and splitting the bills for children’s and household expenses. Not perfectly, but well enough.

So when my ex moved out, he was trying to weasel his way out of paying for anything for the children and for the household that they live in with me. (Never mind that he moved into his mum’s home after pushing her out to a care home and all household bills there are being paid by his mum. And he just bought himself a new XBox which costs almost as much as a weekly wage for him)

My ex suggested that I should take any expenses out of our children’s (detail removed by Moderator) and Child Benefits first, before I start ‘charging’ him. And mind you, we’re meant to be transferring over to Universal Credits (detail removed by Moderator).

Anyhow… I thanked my ex for bringing all of that to my attention and I let my ex know that because he moved out, he is no longer entitled to our children’s benefits because I’m the main carer now. And I gave him another report on what is owed and how and why. I also offered my ex a comparison report, based off of CMS which that result came back as more than (detail removed by Moderator) of what I am asking him for.

New Year, New Me.

(also, he was shocked that I had already obtained a (detail removed by Moderator) for a new place. He keeps assuming that I can’t survive without him.)

[spiritedaway]

Doing a little happy dance and raising my hands in the air in celebration of you – you have got this!!!

[minimeerkat]

had to smile, because when i too had a (detail removed by Moderator) i heard the words ‘its bo…cks’
same as you, never ever in a million years thought i could actually achieve this & exist without them
turns out we can, cant we x

[StrongLife]

Good on you – what strength you have to do all of that.

I had mine as an escalation stop paying child support. He escalated to point of threats, intimidation. I went to court.

Your story is inspired.

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