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      Closedup
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      It took me (timeframe removed by Moderator) after the last abuse to report it. It happened many times prior to it. He kept telling me it wasn’t abuse and I felt my head was so messed up the entire time. I thought there’s no mark so he was right maybe he didn’t choke me. Yes I saw the bruises on my body from him shoving me or holding me down, but I thought maybe I bruised easily. I remember taking pictures of them. I remember doing it as I got out of the shower and noticed all the bruises I had on my wrist, arms, legs. Don’t know about my body. Didn’t have a body length mirror. Then the last abuse happened and I passed out. Woke up to him screaming at me. I remembered him choking me then I saw white. Then I thought I was at a family party, completely different feeling, I felt at peace. Then woke up realizing that was the dream and the reality was that I was still there next to him. It took a few months of no contact before I fully realized it was abuse. That dragging me by the hair wasn’t okay. That he grabbed my (body location removed by Moderator) so hard that he left bruises. Then the bruises on my neck this time. I am confused at times still. He used to tell me a good couple keep problems by ourselves. We don’t involve others. And that I betrayed him when I told a few friends of what he did. He said I spoke lies. And I lived my life questioning everything for the last few years. That’s my story.

    • #173693
      Cat24
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      First. Well done what you have done is amazing and this guy needs to be in prison as he is dangerous.

      Yes it’s abuse. It isn’t acceptable to go around hurting people physically or emotionally and he told you this to silence you because he can be put in prison for it.

      Silence from victims is something they want because the more people who know the closer they are to getting caught for what they are doing.

      Keep safe 🙏

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