I want to expose him

[Broken3]

I was with my ex for (detail removed by moderator) being very emotionally and physiologically abusive as well as many items thrown at me or around me as well (and financially abusive too). I completely lost my sense of self, convinced myself I had all sorts of problems as nothing made sense any more. (detail removed by moderator) child to him and on the run up to it, he became more evil than ever and I felt like I was living in hell trying to make sense of his behaviour. This led me to check his phone and my eyes were opened. Many affairs were had, some with people in my work or in my gym… Disgusting. This cause me to leave him and upon leaving, have discovered – through working with women’s aid and a therapist – just how insidious and evil his abuse was. Evil.

I’ve gone through every emotion – despair, denial, numbness, dark dark thoughts and now I’m at the angry stage. I am so angry that this happened to me, that he did this to me and to my babies.

I really want to put him (detail removed by moderator) also on my social media. I want to speak up so that any other woman in my shoes, living with an abuser without even knowing due to their lies, gaslighting, manipulating and normalising… I want to open their eyes. I want everyone to know, as he is continuing in as normal on his socials, despite refusing to pay any bills/money toward his kids over Christmas so I’m left seeking benefits and accepting charity gifts for his kids… I need people to know what a monster he is.

Friends have said that I’m more dignified, I’m scared of what he’ll do when he knows I’ve outed him. I’ve read into legal complications about publishing things. I’m sure he’s convinced people I’m crazy too. My parents are anti-posting on social media… lots of reasons not to.. But I still can’t shake this feeling of needing to speak out, needing to put him and needing for everyone to know what has happened to me so I can start attempting to heal or move on and not have another single conversation about why we’ve separated.

Can someone let me know what their thoughts are or especially if you have exposed your abusive ex and what was the outcome of it?

Thanks

[StrongLife]

I too had little idea until I called a helpline after someone in community recognised domestic violence issues and gave me number. I did not at that time recognise it and blame myself and had no money and no way to set up my own house.

Finally after a while I got help that I needed after reaching out a lot.

Court is really bad. I mean really bad. Can’t express to you how bad it is. Outcome bad.

I decided to create awareness after this.

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