You’re not a fraud. You wrote that you are in hospital for your mental health, Whatever it is you are feeling, it’s valid. I can’t see that you’ve written much on here about what’s actually happening in your marriage, but the fact that you are ill and instead of having compassion for you, your husband is ‘threatening you with his own mental health’, tells us a lot. Have you spoken to women’s aid? Could you use this time away from him to make a plan? Speak to someone who is treating you to get help, if you can. There is a way, you are worth this. Don’t give up. If you can even make baby steps to get free it’s a start. Keep posting on here, there is always someone.
Sending a hug
Eve
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