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    • #43276

      Hi all it’s been almost a year since I posted. I’ve since been back to my abuser and left threw times.
      My mum passed away this year. I’ve now been months free he was arrested a few more times with no charges (as per usual).
      I’m still struggling without him but I’ve been away from him the longest time ever now.
      Do you think this is the end?
      I’ve not heard from him now for almost (detail removed by Moderator) now and I walked away from him on the day (detail removed by Moderator).
      I’m just starting over. I’ve come along way but do they ever stay away?
      I’ve contacted him but never got a reply and he completely​ deleted his phone number by the service provider.
      I feel so silly I still miss him.
      Hope all’s well.

    • #43278

      Hi Lovely

      Sorry to hear for the loss of your mum. Do they ever stay away, they are all different so cant say, i would recommed u delete his no and block him on social media , focus on working on u , re learn to love yourself and what u like dloing, u have to retrain your brain that u cant think about the person that hurt u, i had to tell myself daily why i left , i had to do counselling to understand what happened, haveu tried counselling

    • #43284
      Falling Skys


      Big hug and sorry about the loss of your mum.

      I can only agree with Con delete and block everything to do with him.

      I know when things are hard the control of them can been comforting as you don’t have room to think. But you really don’t want that.

      Counselling has been a great help to me, and Im due to start a course to help me gain my confidence soon.

      Good luck

      FS xx

    • #43285

      Hi there
      I’d agree with the other ladies…seems like the only way forward is NC, there really isn’t anything positive going to come from being in contact with an abuser.
      For your future and your health all much better to leave the past, and start building your new life in freedom and safety!
      Small steps and as has been said confidence building, is the start.


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