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      Ariel
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      I have been suffering with headaches on and off for a while.
      I’ve had a lot of stress throughout this relationship (this is not the abusive relationship. I have been out of that for a good good while). But I’m struggling with this newish relationship.
      Anyway I had a headache for 3 days now. Then I was just having a good laugh with my child then the headache literally disappeared….. I get up and my partner says something I won’t go into details but my headache literally started crushing my head again.
      I think this relationship is actually making me ill. I don’t sleep like I used to or laugh like I used to.
      I’m finding it hard to split as I can’t bare the thought of seeing him with someone else. I realise that’s selfish and childish but I just feel that way.

    • #144806
      KIP.
      Participant

      Yes, I had a headache for two years. Write down a list of pros and cons for staying in the relationship. Try some mindfulness and relaxation exercises but it will only help the symptoms. Your kids need a happy healthy mum.

    • #144807
      Ariel
      Participant

      Thankyou Kip.
      I will actually do that right now.

    • #144808
      Ariel
      Participant

      How will I get over the thought and seeing him with someone else. I haven’t experienced that pain before and I’m scared to feel it if that makes sense.

    • #144823
      KIP.
      Participant

      Hey, it’s normal to feel that way after even a healthy relationship. In reality the imagination of the pain is way worse than the actual seeing it. Most abusers go out and deliberately pick the first vulnerable woman they find just to cause that triangulation. Yes it might be painful in the short term but blocking him on everything should mean you don’t see what he’s upto. You might surprised yourself and feel relief! ask yourself is that any reason to stay in a relationship you don’t want to be in?

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