18th March 2021 at 10:33 am #123458
31st March 2021 at 9:49 pm #124101SupersadParticipant
I am in extremely violent relationship physical call mental sexual financial emotional.i can’t even eexplain to you how bad it is. I am not allowed to ggo out by myself.Today I have decided I want to leave but I have a daughter of (detail removed by moderator) which I know he is trying to make me lose her.i want to document things but as he goes through my phone all tthe time.it makes it impossible.is there anyway I ccould do this without saving it on my phone.
8th April 2021 at 1:04 pm #124531ISOPeaceParticipant
Hi Supersad, I’m so sorry to hear about what you’re going through. It sounds truly awful and my heart goes out to you. I think a lot of people won’t have seen your post as it’s part of an old thread they probably read before you posted.
Please know that threatening to take your child away is a very common thing for abusers to do. It is incredibly unlikely that he will be able to. Please contact the national domestic abuse helpline for support and advice.
I realise it must be very difficult to reach out while you’re under so much control and with him checking your phone. If you can, please start a post so that more people see it who may be able to offer more advice. The support on this forum is incredible and will give you strength and hope.
I don’t have any ideas other than what Living Warrior has already said, but others may have some good ideas for documenting things safely.
You’re not alone, however much it feels that way. You are so brave to post here. Please reach out a but further to get a bit more help and support. You deserve to be free of this awful abuse. Sending lots of love and strength xxxxx
6th April 2021 at 9:25 am #124364Living WarriorParticipant
i am so sorry to hear bout this, Bright sky is a fab app that looks and actually works like a weather app as i said before, it has a dairy part where you can log things, unless you know how its difficult to unlock the app itself it actually looks and works as a weather app 🙂 but if this is still too dangerous for you, then i am not sure,
obviously your safety is paramount! so i will give you a few ideas that i know others have tried including myself, maybe one of these will suit you.
I really do think you need to reach out to your local womens aid, i know it is difficult but they do have ways of communicating which can help in these situations.
I kept a diary, hid it under a floorboard under my bedside table, it was easy to lift and didnt leave drag marks.
i know people who have lots of paperwork for work and such and it they kept their dairies in with that, I also know people who had left things with a close well trusted friend.
i also used the local library to set up a new email account, to which i gave to those professionals who needed it, id check it once a week under the rouse of work coffee meeting. i would use word documents type them on the library computer and send using my new email to my new email ( if that makes sense).
Im sure some of the other women will give you more information on how they did it.
but i would keep texts, whatsapps etc. dont delete them. at the very least they will help. if you cant complete a diary etc.
womens aid will be able to do you a safety plan for your exit, and it would be wise to get police involvement, i had my new home flagged, if there was a call to my address then it would be sent through as a top priority.
consider having police there when you actually leave too.
i hope some of these suggestions can help you.
good luck on your journey.
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