Is it abuse or am I over reacting

[Victim in the making]

So many things happening that I don’t know where to start.

My partner of (timeframe removed by Moderator) months will often pick arguments, push me into retaliation, everytime we argue the first thing he raises his voice, has a very scary angry look, talks at me like he hates me with all his might, and does not let me speak, I have to fight to speak and when I do he shuts me down before i’ve even started.  He will always say is “do you want to end it?” “you better make a decision”, “your over reacting” “let’s put the house on the market at the weekend” “you’ve got until the weekend to decide”,all in an aggressive tone and these comments aren’t justified. He denies he is talking aggressively and never takes ownership for his part in the argument (or for starting it). He’s even started to be more lazy than normal and stop doing all his chores, stating in bed or in front of the tv for the majority of our free time together.

[Marmalade]

Hi this does not sound at all healthy. There are a lot of red flags here.

This is a short relationship so I would recommend thinking about whether you want to continue like this. You should still be in the “honeymoon phase” . It probably wont get any better and may get worse.

If you have actually bought a house together that does complicate things, or did one of you own it first and the other move in? If  one of you moved in you will need to think about what contributions the one moving in made to the mortgage in order to see if there is a financial interest.

Im sorry you are in this situation. This does not sound good.

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