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    • #171873
      Hazydayz
      Participant

      That there just isn’t enough love!

      Or help available out there to all who suffer!

      Why does it have to feel and seem so unavailable?

      When help is truelly needed…Why must it take so long!

      Anyone else feel the same?

      Hazydayzđź’ž

    • #171883
      Euni
      Participant

      Not just you . It feels exactly the same for me. I have reached out to two people, I just needed someone to hear me out and ended up just having small talk after I realised they didn’t have time for my issues . It’s incredibly lonely and that makes things difficult

    • #171884
      Euni
      Participant

      Not just you . It feels exactly the same for me. I have reached out to two people, I just needed someone to hear me out and ended up just having small talk after I realised they didn’t have time for my issues . It’s incredibly lonely and that makes things difficult

      • #172135
        Hazydayz
        Participant

        Hi Euni and thankyou. I hope your in a better place? Not feeling lonely in a situation trying to resolve your issues alone? I’m hoping you found someone who  gave you the gift of time to talk about the issues affecting you? someone who listened  and could understand? How you must be feeling. It must have been soul destroying to have to minimise your needs/ feelings twice! Just to fit in with others time allowances. I agree that’s a lonely place to be and makes things feel so much worse!

        Take care of youđź’ž

    • #172140
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      Sorry to hear about what you are experiencing. It’s not a very nice feeling at all .  I think there will be quite a few people feeling exactly like yourself and it isn’t very nice at all . Sending gentle hugs.  It is difficult to others to hear us . Wishing this wasn’t the case here . Wishing none of you were experiencing this . I myself feel exactly the same.  Hoping and I for brighter days ahead ✨️ 🙏.

      • #172360
        Hazydayz
        Participant

        Big hugđź’ž

    • #172142
      Sad and alone
      Participant

      The only person I told was someone at the local DA centre when I registered. Not heard from them since. I told them an email they could use and thought they’d follow up but no. I guess they’re there if I need them.
      I told a relative we weren’t getting on. Not to what extent with DA but where I said I might need to come and stay with them and they said yes don’t need to ask etc. That was a while back. They didn’t want to visit in the summer if things weren’t right but came the other day but didn’t ask me a thing about it. Even he asked if they’d asked me and I said no. I guess that’s just the sort of family it is, like a bit reserved about things.
      It’s a lonely place being where we are.

      • #172361
        Hazydayz
        Participant

        Sending you a Big Hug tđź’ž

    • #172169
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      Definitely do feel lonely .

      • #172362
        Hazydayz
        Participant

        Your not alone đź’ž

    • #172363
      Put the kettle on
      Participant

      I feel people don’t always listen because they don’t understand why we don’t just leave. We know it’s not that simple though, we’re trauma bonded and brainwashed.

      We feel alone but we’re not alone on here. Hugs to you all

      • #173256
        Hazydayz
        Participant

        It’s about not having anywhere to go and anyone to go to in my case.

    • #172375
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      Thank you @Hazydayz . Gentle hugs back to you 🤗 ❤️. Please take care.

      • #173261
        Hazydayz
        Participant

        Thankyou for the gentle hug Stargazing1, gentle hug to you too🤗💕 I hope this New Year finds you a resolution to your situation. Just want to add…never think you shouldn’t have turned to family for support, that’s the most natural thing  to do isn’t it. I hope your whole family are there for you? I have realised in my situation ….not having supportive family is why I’m where I am. I woke up to this and its another difficult thing to live with but it’s true! I think trauma bonded relationships are sometimes a reflection of other failed relationships don’t you?

        Take good care of youđź©·

    • #172376
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      I’m finding some family are  avoiding me too . I start to think I should never have said anything to them now .

    • #172379
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      Your right @Putthekettleon , we are trauma bonded and brainwashed we definitely are .

    • #173401
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      @Hazydayz , I apologise sincerely for this late response.  For some reason my head has been a bit all over the place.   I haven’t meant to leave it so long .    I think sometimes family would rather carry on with their own lives than worry about what’s going on in someone else’s.     Yes I do think trauma bonded relationships  are definitely a reflection of other failed relationships 100 percent.    Some things I’m life are very easy to deal with others not so much.  Always remember to take care of yourself.  Your the most important one in this situation.  Keep safe .   Sending a few more gentle hugs.   Strength in numbers.

      • #173668
        Hazydayz
        Participant

        Hello again Stargazing1, thankyou for your reply, and the hugs, Im sorry I havent seen your message until now so my reply is late also. I hope your doing ok ? I’m not doing so good right now, if only I had family to turn to for help.  Thankyou for your kindness đź’•

    • #173410
      NotYourMaid
      Participant

      @Hazydayz

      Help taking a long time… No, you’re not the only one that thinks that. It felt like that for me too. You have to run around contacting different people (including friends and family members) and different organizations, some of which will flatly turn you down, others will promise help and not deliver, some will want to help, but for varies reasons won’t be able to. It takes a while sometimes to find the right one. And even then, they might be slow, because they have to follow their own process. At least, all of that is what happened in my case.

      I hope you’ve gotten the help you need since you posted this.

      • #173669
        Hazydayz
        Participant

        Not your maid, thankyou for your reply, I haven’t found help, I’m like a rabbit in headlights…seemingly frozen in time! Nobody really knowing or understanding outside of this forum. Hope your finding peace

    • #173726
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      It’s OK @Hazydayz ,  no need to apologise.  We all have stuff going on and when we are in the middle of a issue it isn’t always easy to find the enthusiasm to post .  You are so welcome to the hugs . You deserve some kindness ❤️.  I empathise about not having family to turn too.  Please take care of yourself.  Keep safe.  Be kind to yourself too.

      • #173894
        Hazydayz
        Participant

        Thankyou Stargazing1đź’žđź’•

    • #173900
      Stargazing1
      Participant

      Your welcome @Hazydayz

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