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Stargazing1.
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20th October 2024 at 11:24 am #171873
Hazydayz
ParticipantThat there just isn’t enough love!
Or help available out there to all who suffer!
Why does it have to feel and seem so unavailable?
When help is truelly needed…Why must it take so long!
Anyone else feel the same?
Hazydayzđź’ž
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21st October 2024 at 9:04 am #171883
Euni
ParticipantNot just you . It feels exactly the same for me. I have reached out to two people, I just needed someone to hear me out and ended up just having small talk after I realised they didn’t have time for my issues . It’s incredibly lonely and that makes things difficult
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21st October 2024 at 9:04 am #171884
Euni
ParticipantNot just you . It feels exactly the same for me. I have reached out to two people, I just needed someone to hear me out and ended up just having small talk after I realised they didn’t have time for my issues . It’s incredibly lonely and that makes things difficult
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5th November 2024 at 9:52 am #172135
Hazydayz
ParticipantHi Euni and thankyou. I hope your in a better place? Not feeling lonely in a situation trying to resolve your issues alone? I’m hoping you found someone who gave you the gift of time to talk about the issues affecting you? someone who listened and could understand? How you must be feeling. It must have been soul destroying to have to minimise your needs/ feelings twice! Just to fit in with others time allowances. I agree that’s a lonely place to be and makes things feel so much worse!
Take care of youđź’ž
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5th November 2024 at 1:19 pm #172140
Stargazing1
ParticipantSorry to hear about what you are experiencing. It’s not a very nice feeling at all . I think there will be quite a few people feeling exactly like yourself and it isn’t very nice at all . Sending gentle hugs. It is difficult to others to hear us . Wishing this wasn’t the case here . Wishing none of you were experiencing this . I myself feel exactly the same. Hoping and I for brighter days ahead ✨️ 🙏.
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5th November 2024 at 2:11 pm #172142
Sad and alone
ParticipantThe only person I told was someone at the local DA centre when I registered. Not heard from them since. I told them an email they could use and thought they’d follow up but no. I guess they’re there if I need them.
I told a relative we weren’t getting on. Not to what extent with DA but where I said I might need to come and stay with them and they said yes don’t need to ask etc. That was a while back. They didn’t want to visit in the summer if things weren’t right but came the other day but didn’t ask me a thing about it. Even he asked if they’d asked me and I said no. I guess that’s just the sort of family it is, like a bit reserved about things.
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6th November 2024 at 10:53 am #172169
Stargazing1
ParticipantDefinitely do feel lonely .
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18th November 2024 at 12:23 pm #172363
Put the kettle on
ParticipantI feel people don’t always listen because they don’t understand why we don’t just leave. We know it’s not that simple though, we’re trauma bonded and brainwashed.
We feel alone but we’re not alone on here. Hugs to you all
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19th November 2024 at 12:24 pm #172375
Stargazing1
ParticipantThank you @Hazydayz . Gentle hugs back to you 🤗 ❤️. Please take care.
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7th January 2025 at 9:53 am #173261
Hazydayz
ParticipantThankyou for the gentle hug Stargazing1, gentle hug to you too🤗💕 I hope this New Year finds you a resolution to your situation. Just want to add…never think you shouldn’t have turned to family for support, that’s the most natural thing to do isn’t it. I hope your whole family are there for you? I have realised in my situation ….not having supportive family is why I’m where I am. I woke up to this and its another difficult thing to live with but it’s true! I think trauma bonded relationships are sometimes a reflection of other failed relationships don’t you?
Take good care of youđź©·
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19th November 2024 at 12:26 pm #172376
Stargazing1
ParticipantI’m finding some family are avoiding me too . I start to think I should never have said anything to them now .
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19th November 2024 at 1:01 pm #172379
Stargazing1
ParticipantYour right @Putthekettleon , we are trauma bonded and brainwashed we definitely are .
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11th January 2025 at 10:00 pm #173401
Stargazing1
Participant@Hazydayz , I apologise sincerely for this late response. For some reason my head has been a bit all over the place.  I haven’t meant to leave it so long .  I think sometimes family would rather carry on with their own lives than worry about what’s going on in someone else’s.   Yes I do think trauma bonded relationships are definitely a reflection of other failed relationships 100 percent.  Some things I’m life are very easy to deal with others not so much. Always remember to take care of yourself. Your the most important one in this situation. Keep safe .  Sending a few more gentle hugs.  Strength in numbers.
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26th January 2025 at 11:27 am #173668
Hazydayz
ParticipantHello again Stargazing1, thankyou for your reply, and the hugs, Im sorry I havent seen your message until now so my reply is late also. I hope your doing ok ? I’m not doing so good right now, if only I had family to turn to for help. Thankyou for your kindness đź’•
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12th January 2025 at 3:09 am #173410
NotYourMaid
ParticipantHelp taking a long time… No, you’re not the only one that thinks that. It felt like that for me too. You have to run around contacting different people (including friends and family members) and different organizations, some of which will flatly turn you down, others will promise help and not deliver, some will want to help, but for varies reasons won’t be able to. It takes a while sometimes to find the right one. And even then, they might be slow, because they have to follow their own process. At least, all of that is what happened in my case.
I hope you’ve gotten the help you need since you posted this.
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28th January 2025 at 5:51 pm #173726
Stargazing1
ParticipantIt’s OK @Hazydayz , no need to apologise. We all have stuff going on and when we are in the middle of a issue it isn’t always easy to find the enthusiasm to post . You are so welcome to the hugs . You deserve some kindness ❤️. I empathise about not having family to turn too. Please take care of yourself. Keep safe. Be kind to yourself too.
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4th February 2025 at 10:23 am #173900
Stargazing1
ParticipantYour welcome @Hazydayz
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