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    • #93737
      savingthestars
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      When two people are friends due to both being in Separate Traumatic Experiences, then get back in touch only for one of them to be “in love” with the other?

    • #93805
      fizzylem
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      Two wounded children? Now adults, who find a connection through sharing a similar experience of childhood trauma? Or a later trauma, like they both lost a partner or a child at an early age? Something similar happened – they share the same support group? Or are they trauma bonded? Google ‘trauma bonds’. Or is just that they both understand what it is to experience trauma?

      Stalkerish? Unrequited love? Or is it more simple, that they both feel very differently and that is fine – just how it is?

    • #93840
      hop
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      People do bond of shared experiences even if they are nothing to do with each other. I wanted to help someone once who had a really terrible thing happen and I wanted to raise money for a bench for her. I felt embarrassed because I didn’t really know her. Someone said to me (watered down) people who have had traumatic lives share something and that was why I felt something towards her, even though I didn’t know her. It sounds a bit like that. Is it infatuation because you’re a similar, or something more? Is it making things uncomfortable?

    • #93941
      savingthestars
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      My ex and i met at school. basically we both had hard home lives. then he used the fact that i had been abused as a child against me. we had a codependent relationship. then he became obsessed with me, didnt want me seeing other men – other men were a “phase” and he went out with a girl with same name as me. and called her my kids mum and my child his daughter (hes not related to the child)

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