Is this the start of control

[Purplebloommm]

Is someone telling you after a first date that they don’t like your family knowing we’re you are the start of controlling behaviour? He says it makes him uncomfortable

[AloneWolf]

I would tell him it makes you uncomfortable your family NOT knowing where you are… see what he says to that?

Above all – trust your instincts! If you feel something isn’t right, it’s not. Run away xx

[Mrsbluesky99]

I’d say so bit weird to say the least why would he have an issue with your family knowing where you are? Did u ask this question … I’d say a red flag yep.

[Purplebloommm]

I did ask and he just said that any man would feel the same – he said I should change it if I want to move forward. He has since started to ignore me, I’m not sure if this is him trying to manipulate me

[nbumblebee]

You are not doing what he has asked when he asked it so he is sulking making you feel so bad you will give in to his demands. Yes i would say this is a huge huge red flag run sweetie run away.

[Purplebloommm]

Thankyou for your advice – I feel like Iv been loosing my mind from him saying quite in-depth stuff after a date to then ignoring me. I did see him again the day after he said that and I thought he was ok, could this really be to do with sulking because he can’t get his own way when he saw me again before ignoring me?

[AloneWolf]

Him saying that any man would feel the same is untrue. His demand that no one knows where you are is absolutely ridiculous and actually quite worrying – you should always tell people where you going when you first start dating someone IMO.

Ask yourself this – Does his request make sense? (No, he’s trying to confuse you, why would he have an issue with this??). Do other men really feel this way? (No, gaslighting/distorting reality). Did he respect your wishes? (No, he’s ignoring you to punish you).

This man is doing these things on the first date – imagine what he will do in the future.

Stay safe and trust yourself xx

[Purplebloommm]

Yes I agree with you I thought it was a bit much after a first date however he said it in a very ok way (didn’t directly tell me what to do ect just said he didn’t like it that everyone knew were I was), so I believed he was just explaining himself. He then said he wanted to remain friends then asked me to see him the next day, which I did then ignored me ever since. Very confusing behaviour, this isn’t something Iv experienced before.

[Happybelle]

I would let this one go and not pursue him. I have learned that anything that seems sketchy usually is and would be better off not taking it any further.

[Purplebloommm]

Thankyou he has started to block and unblock me so I can see this is all a game

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