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1st November 2023 at 5:05 pm #162815
Purplebloommm
ParticipantIs someone telling you after a first date that they don’t like your family knowing we’re you are the start of controlling behaviour? He says it makes him uncomfortable
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1st November 2023 at 9:11 pm #162818
AloneWolf
ParticipantI would tell him it makes you uncomfortable your family NOT knowing where you are… see what he says to that?
Above all – trust your instincts! If you feel something isn’t right, it’s not. Run away xx
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1st November 2023 at 9:58 pm #162820
Mrsbluesky99
ParticipantI’d say so bit weird to say the least why would he have an issue with your family knowing where you are? Did u ask this question … I’d say a red flag yep.
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2nd November 2023 at 8:37 am #162822
Purplebloommm
ParticipantI did ask and he just said that any man would feel the same – he said I should change it if I want to move forward. He has since started to ignore me, I’m not sure if this is him trying to manipulate me
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2nd November 2023 at 9:10 am #162823
nbumblebee
ParticipantYou are not doing what he has asked when he asked it so he is sulking making you feel so bad you will give in to his demands. Yes i would say this is a huge huge red flag run sweetie run away.
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2nd November 2023 at 10:07 am #162824
Purplebloommm
ParticipantThankyou for your advice – I feel like Iv been loosing my mind from him saying quite in-depth stuff after a date to then ignoring me. I did see him again the day after he said that and I thought he was ok, could this really be to do with sulking because he can’t get his own way when he saw me again before ignoring me?
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2nd November 2023 at 10:30 am #162825
AloneWolf
ParticipantHim saying that any man would feel the same is untrue. His demand that no one knows where you are is absolutely ridiculous and actually quite worrying – you should always tell people where you going when you first start dating someone IMO.
Ask yourself this – Does his request make sense? (No, he’s trying to confuse you, why would he have an issue with this??). Do other men really feel this way? (No, gaslighting/distorting reality). Did he respect your wishes? (No, he’s ignoring you to punish you).
This man is doing these things on the first date – imagine what he will do in the future.
Stay safe and trust yourself xx
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2nd November 2023 at 11:03 am #162826
Purplebloommm
ParticipantYes I agree with you I thought it was a bit much after a first date however he said it in a very ok way (didn’t directly tell me what to do ect just said he didn’t like it that everyone knew were I was), so I believed he was just explaining himself. He then said he wanted to remain friends then asked me to see him the next day, which I did then ignored me ever since. Very confusing behaviour, this isn’t something Iv experienced before.
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4th November 2023 at 1:55 am #162880
Happybelle
ParticipantI would let this one go and not pursue him. I have learned that anything that seems sketchy usually is and would be better off not taking it any further.
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4th November 2023 at 12:02 pm #162887
Purplebloommm
ParticipantThankyou he has started to block and unblock me so I can see this is all a game
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