Iv finally left and need help

[Myname]

Il try keep short , I need advice

I was in an abusive relationship, more controlling, odd time physical and very emotional, we were together (detail removed by moderator) little one who is (detail removed by moderator), (detail removed by moderator) last year I up the courage and told him to leave cos my little one seen herd too much, we hadn’t slept together in over a year, we were in separate beds for the last (detail removed by moderator), so I phoned the police one day cos I had enough , he hurt me, this was (detail removed by moderator) ago .. I feel iv had no feelings or love for him in a long time , at least 2 years when I wisened up and realised I needed out, now he’s gone , I wasn’t sad when he left I felt guilty for my little one that’s all , I know that may sound cruel , but iv been over him a long time and was just scared of him , I met someone out the blue , I know him he’s from my area and known him for ages we started going walks when my little one was with his dad, he so sweet really nice and I enjoy talking and I agreed to go on a date with him .. is this too soon? I’m I wrong , is this wrong?

I said that I’d like to keep it this way, go walks , just text and enjoy how things are, he knows the situation and is happy with that.. no one would know about it until I was sure he was sticking around

I’m now feeling stuck, we are just like good friends just now which I’m happy with that just keeping it casual ,I feel now I like him , will I go back to my same ways? Like over thinking everything , will I run around after him like I did my ex , will I get hurt,

I feel daft writing this, also how do you know if you have anxiety, I feel I’m on the go constantly like I was when I was like him, like constantly over thinking , constantly cleaning, constantly on the go , getting agitated at everything, even my little one , I just feel yes im happy to him this boy as a friend how things are going , but how I’m feeling about on the go is making me feel something is wrong with me , i just don’t know

[Eggshells]

Hi @Myname

If you haven’t already done so, it might be worth trying the freedom programne.

Also, I can’t remember for sure but I think the recommendation is that you don’t go into another relationship for 2 years after leaving an abusive partner.

To be honest, I’ve been out much longet than this and I know I’m still not ready because I’m still very over sensitive to anything that could potentially be a red flag.

If you are both happy tovremain friends then why not keep it that way whilst you take a little more time to heal.

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