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5th December 2016 at 11:34 am #33895FreeasabirdParticipant
I’m just looking for advice as I really don’t know what to do. I have been married for (detail removed by moderator) to a man who has been physically abusive in the past, now it is emotional abuse, and am looking into my options of where I can go when I leave him.
We have a council property with my name on the tenancy but he will not move, and I do not want to stay there as I do not trust him, and also I would become depressed if I stayed there if I managed to get him out (have suffered from severe depression in the past, so know my triggers) as it would be full of memories, most of them bad.
I have spoken to a women’s center and I think my only option will be a refuge, as I can’t stay with family members permanently.
I have been in a refuge before, but this was years ago and myself and my partner at the time were just in a shared home, so had no property together, and even though my husband isn’t on the tenancy I know he has rights as a tenant as I’ve spoken to Shelter.
I have no children, but have a cat who I am currently trying to rehome, but what can I do from here, do I just make calls to Women’s Aid etc?
I am so confused and I can’t see any way out of my situation.
5th December 2016 at 8:36 pm #33912LisaMain Moderator
Welcome to the forum I hope you find it a supportive place to be.
You mentioned you are in the process of rehoming your cat. you could also look into pet fostering. A pet fostering scheme fosters your pets temporarily while you go into refuge.
Take care and keep posting.
28th January 2017 at 12:10 pm #36991pink roseParticipant
If you live in the (detail removed by moderator) I would take care of your cat for you. I am a survivor too
28th January 2017 at 12:28 pm #36992AnonymousInactive
I can only echo what Lisa has said, but i wanted to give you a hug, even if it is only virtual. Take a day at a time, speak to the national domestic helpline and keep coming on here. Talking about it can only help and i am sure that there will be others along later that can offer you a wealth of advice.
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