Late night thoughts

[Anonymous]

Good evening guys! Does anybody else feel as though they overthink everything more when it comes to night time? It’s seems to be like there’s less distractions on a night, the jobs are done the baby is asleep so all that’s left to do is sit and wonder and over think and I just get myself into this emotional pit and my head feels like it will explode! I just sit and cry, my brain is too active to sleep. I’m having those days where I’ll go so long feeling ok, not thinking about him & feeling positive then BANG it just hits me out of nowhere again and I feel back to square one within seconds. I can’t seen to maintain a healthy mindset and I can’t deal with the mood swings of feeling ok one minute and then dreadful the next. How do you guys cope with night time? How do you cope with the overthinking and the mood swings?

[Escapee]

Hey FB

I’m going through the tough bit too so I really hear you…..

When it gets too much in my head, I start singing in my head, anything will do, the song doesn’t matter, it can be twinkle twinkle little star. It immediately stops the brain from churning everything over. Whilst you’re singing away in you head, start taking deeper breaths and relax you muscles. I hope this works for you too.

As for the crying, let it happen, every tear is a drop of sadness less.

Love and hugs xxxx

[Getmylifeback]

I have this feeling too, especially if the ex has been kicking off. Also in the Mo rnjngthe second I wake up 😢 but once I’m up and showered tend to feel a bit better.

I sit and imagine him taking the kids away, dreading the call, stay up til early hoursresesrching things on the internet then set my alarm to get up to get kids ready for school and to get to work and it says I have less than 4 hours! I then often slip into bed with one of my kids and cuddle up to them as I go to sleep.

I sometimes don’t know how I still function on the sleep I get!

[Efcharisto]

Hello, have you ever come across grounding techniques that are recommended in overcoming trauma? They can include things like holding onto a piece of ice or drinking/smelling peppermint tea, looking round the room and identifying 5 things you can see and hear around you. And saying to yourself, ‘I am safe’. The other thing you can do is just breathe in and out and as you do that count to 4 on each in breath and the same on each out breath. I’ve found grounding techniques really helpful.

[lover of no contact]

Hi FB,

Yes my head gets busy too at nighttime and I’m years out! but still dealing with the fallout and I get triggered very easily by other abusers at work etc and I’m in my head again.

I grab my journal and draw ME with a circle around it and put arrows from the thing that’s bothering me to the ME. And then I see clearly what’s in my head down in paper. It’s easier to contain this way. Then I see a week later when I look back in my writings that the things have improved or I got through the challenging feelings then I don’t panic so much the next time I have overwhelming feelings or difficult situations as I know that everything passes.

Also I’ve heard starting a gratitude list starting a,b,c,d is very good for helping our low mood. This can be easily done when lying awake unable to sleep with the busy head.

[Anonymous]

Wow thank you for the messages lovelies! I will definitely be trying out some of your techniques and tips they sound great! Gosh everyday is getting harder and it’s such a battle isn’t it! Much love to you all xx

[Iwantmeback]

I like the sound of the alphabet gratitude list, thank you for sharing this @loverofnocontact

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