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      Im supposed to be leaving next week. I’m so stressed wondering if I’m making the right decision.
      We’ve been together so long. I’ve minimised his behaviour, not wanting to Rock the boat. I Blame myself as well as we’ve argued, he’s made out I push him to say terrible things last example was, you (detail removed by moderator) etc. And when he grabbed (detail removed by moderator) out of my hand leaving my fingers sore he said, (detail removed by moderator).
      These last few months have been the worst as I’ve dealt with him threatening to hit me twice, intimidating behaviour,
      I blame myself because I stand up to him as in I answer back. He says I’m moody and shout more than I used to.
      He’s right, i find very little joy in life and everything has become a chore. He switches from being very complimentary to telling me I’m fat, the food is s..t etc I have an opportunity to start over and I’m so scared of leaving, splitting the family up.

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      I’m kind of in a similar situation as you. My husband is verbally abusive but he’s never hit me. He did hit the phone out of my hand when I threatened to call the police. He smashed a door in my house a few weeks ago & was very aggressive with our daughter who now refuses to be in the house.
      I am trying to find a rental property & have been on with women’s aid & citizens advice. My WA support worker advised me to apply for single person universal credit which I did yesterday.
      I have doubted myself so much and I’ve been called cold, fat, unloving etc. I found an old post I made on this forum from almost 5 yrs ago. It made me cry because nothing has changed but I was too scared. I’ve been told by him numerous times that he will keep my son but I have to be brave now & just hope that my son will see what he’s doing. If you haven’t already please contact your local women’s aid. Even just talking helped me xx

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