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    • #163386

      Hello, thanks for the kind messages from last time. Sadly my situation is worse. After saying I’d like to move out due to the mistreatment, the refuge is not really doing much to move me out; instead they expect my advocate to do it- today they said they could only access the database from the staff member who mistreated me so i said im worried that won’t be safe; but as a result was told to call Refuge for the register myself in a pretty unkind way. i said it hurt my feelings; but as before, i was told that it’s not about me feeling hurt, they are just too busy.

      at the moment i am just a bit shocked at how unkindly i have been treated by both my refuge and pa. i think that it is really unfair that speaking up for myself and my needs has led to so much isolation. i think that support during such a vulnerable time would be best and yet i am having to do the legwork myself to find a better life. i just kind of feel sad that nobody is really able to help me in this situation.

    • #163406

      Thinking of you. In my volunteering and work with vulnerable people I like to think that I would do anything for them. I hate saying no, which of course makes me prime fodder for abusers outside volunteering and work. I like to treat myself well after my abuse too and have learned about boundaries.
      After people have endured so much in their lives the last thing they need is ‘too busy’, they need gentleness and someone to look out for them in their time of need.
      Sending lots of love to you.

      • #163421

        Thank you so much swanlake! I wish you all the best with your volunteering and yeah, saying no can be hard. Sadly yeah my support worker AND my advocate get upset that I ask for support when they are busy. I agree wholeheartedly with you, I too wish someone had time for me too.

    • #163422

      Been alerted that I’ve been expected to leave by THIS WEEK! Which is unrealistic. And all the refuges I speak to are saying they aren’t sure they can meet my needs.

    • #163441

      I am starting to realise life is really sad for peoples like me, i have to fight for myself but then have so much trauma that i cant even function like others do. yet im expected to, its very sad

    • #163574

      Keep going. There is time limits on refuges and different ones have different rules. Whoa a week is too quick. I took had the be out by 1 week scenario. I ended up in another refuge closer. It is only for a short time. I moved on after that to share houses

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