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      Put the kettle on

      My ex is saying all sorts of lies about me and it seems the professionals involved believe him, he’s saying i was the abusive one and i made him do the things he did. He says I’m saying things to our child which I don’t and never would. He was violent and controlling and it feels like he’s still controlling my life. I feel so hopeless and like I’ll never be free of him. I have nightmares still about him.

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      Hi beautiful Angel … Put the kettle on,
      Unfortunately, this is all to common behaviour of abusers
      However now you are out you have your power back, so do not let him take that from you again.
      This is what you have to work to strengthen now, I’m not saying its easy to do and everyday I am still working on it myself… its like working a muscle at the gym but it is what you have to do to set yourself free
      As long as you are standing in your power and being true to yourself the universe will work with you. This will then give you strength to cope with his lies and the stronger you get the less they will have an impact on you.
      You will be free of him, but it is a journey. So do as much as you can to work on yourself, your self love, your self worth and your self respect, this will in turn strengthen your boundaries. And remember you are not walking this journey alone
      Sending you continued love and support
      Darcy xx

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      Put the kettle on

      Thank you Darcy, i feel so incredibly alone and like I’m not understood.

    • #124508

      Hello Put the kettle on,

      Really sorry you are having to put up with this behaviour from your ex. I had the same sort of thing from mine, telling everyone I was mad and writing to the Doctor to say I was mentally ill and that he was afraid of me as I made him throw things and damage the house. It would seem that since I have left my super power of being able to control people’s actions has gone, and no one thinks I am mad.
      I am sure that the people that matter to you know the truth, as do my friends and family. I have learnt not to worry about what people think of me, I know my truth and was never abusive or violent. I am just sorry that my super power has gone (sorry to be flippant) but I would love to be able to make someone paint the outside of my little house for me.

      Be kind to yourself and let him thinks his lies.

      Take care of you, beachhutXx

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