Lovebombing/Bait and Switch

[Cosmicasca]

He tried lovebombing me recently, and that was it for me. He baited and switched me for the last time. I’ve been out a while now, but after that lovebomb I truly began to realise he was never going to change. Dr Jekyll was never going to stay and he would always revert to Mr Hyde because that was the real person. I have finally begun to break the trauma bond. What I had known in my mind and soul for so long during the abuse and after, has finally begun to reach my heart! Coincidentally I have started to feel a bit more like myself since and I am hoping to remain strong and not entertain him anymore.

[Jedi warrior]

Hi I get what you mean about reverting back to Mr Hyde and lovebombing .I have been on an emotional roller coaster for some time I have been discarded now after my ex pursuing me almost obsessively promising a great future putting me on a pedestal bought me nice gifts was great understanding then went very cold started nit picking literally in a week from lovely to saying it was not working for him ..I should move out he finished our relationship once before and hoovered me back in .I think then I was doing everything I could to please him and make it work I was always walking on eggshells I guess expecting him to revert again took longer this time ! I am trying to have more self respect now as I have always had trouble with being assertive my long marriage ended before this relationship because of sexual coercive behaviour like you say once it reaches your heart its easier to get stronger and not entertain them anymore they are not worth our time in our lives !

[Eggshells]

It’s this constant Jekyll and Hyde behaviour that keeps us in a fug of confusion. Well done for stepping out of that cycle. It’s not an easy thing to do and you did it. xx

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