Married a non UK that’s abusive

[Friendlyboosy12@]

I got married to a non UK (ethnicity removed by Moderator) nationality “married (detail removed by Moderator) in (location removed by Moderator)” and then he came here to get married via UK system on a tourist visa. Once he submitted his spouse leave to remain paperwork the abuse kicked off. Calling me a refugee even tho I’m British, calling me names that I’ve basically sold my body to get paid. And on top of it all, finding out he is married in his country with (number removed by Moderator) kids and I’m just a secret. I’m not allowed to go and see family here or friends. Even to go to salon he has to come with me.
he has come to the point he is threatening me and saying he will use the (location removed by Moderator) marriage as it is legal here but (legal details removed by Moderator).

[Lisa]

Hi Friendlyboosy12@,

Thank you for sharing with us. The abuse you are experiencing sounds very distressing, you are doing the right thing by reaching out for support. I hope you are finding it helpful to post on the forum. As well as our Live Chat service, there are local domestic abuse services offering ongoing emotional and practical support with the abuse you are experiencing. They can often explore your options and help with making a plan based on your circumstances. You can find your local service here.

Do keep posting to us when you can, there is support here for you.

Best wishes,

Lisa

[EvenSerpentsShine]

Hi. This sounds terrible for you. I don’t know much about the legality of this but could I suggest that you turn to the authorities for help to annul your marriage. It sounds as if you were coerced into it so that he could get residency. If he is already married then marrying you is illegal and you can probably annul the marriage. You could also possibly try and do it on the grounds of coercion or fraud or that he pretended to be someone he wasn’t.
Do you have access to the internet where you can begin to research this? Do you have a phone that you can use without him knowing so that you can start to talk to people about this?

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