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hey girls,
i need some advice and support because its been (detail removed by moderator) months since i left my abusive partner and i am really struggling to cope with ajusting to life, he just keeps invading my mind, flash backs and memories, he has no place in my head yet he is like an invader and it is really starting to get me down. I was reffered to a mentle health clinque and is being treated as an outpatient but until recently my mind is constantly thinking about him and what he did to me. i reported it all to the police and they want me to do a VRI i cant bring myself to tell them when i am free because i know if i go to the VRI that my head will shut down and i will withdraw into myself, can anyone give me tips and advice on how to get that vile creature out my head, i want to be happy aqgain i want to be me again i want to move on and enjoy my life with my new partner but my head wont move on its like its stuck
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Hi have you tried to properly process all your thoughts? I found until I addressed it, let the memories flow and feel and deal with the emotions related to them I was the same- every weakened hour and nightmares while sleeping. It’s hard to let it all come to the surface- I know writing helps for me so that’s what I done- wrote them all down, acknowledged them and reassured myself I was away from him and would never allow anyone to make me feel the way he did. I feel like I’ve came out the other side- my bad days are now bad moments. I have had to address other relationships and have lost some people due to behaviours having a negative affect on me but it’s a small price to pay for being free and feeling strong and confident in myself. I still have wobbly moments but I try to think positively about the situation- I used to think about all the years I wasted with him etc now I see it as I’m a much better person for it, I learned so much from the relationship and grew so much after leaving and I’m more conscious of others feelings too. Good luck on your journey- don’t rush it, allow the hurt and anger to flow and use it to build on yourself, it does get easier I promise. You deserve to be loved and respected- first and foremost by yourself ❤️
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