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      Since having our child I have decided not to get the contraceptive implant again because it lowered my sex drive. My husband was supportive of this decision and we decided that using condoms were the best option.

      Last night we started to have an intimate moment. He then asks me during it (I feel like this alone isn’t totally right cause I’m not thinking straight during sex) if he could (detail removed by moderator). I agreed. This second become longer than I agreed to with him (detail removed by moderator). I felt so uncomfortable with that but didn’t want to make it awkward so just didn’t say anything.
      Then during it he asks (detail removed by moderator) and tbh I didn’t want to as I hadn’t been feeling very well earlier in the day and hadn’t like prepped at all. After like 30 seconds he seems to have forgotten my no because he then (detail removed by moderator) even though I’d said no.
      During this I felt like I couldn’t say anything because I just felt so much so pressurere to say yes, to (detail removed by moderator), because had complained about them and had said how much sex means to him and how much he needs it that I felt that I had to show him this act of love
      He also kept pressuring me being like “(detail removed by moderator)”.

      I just don’t feel right with what happened.
      I feel like if I were to bring it to him he would act so hurt that I would end up comforting him or he would gaslight me because I agreed to it. This has made me scared of talking to him about it

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      no wonder you dont feel right about it
      there will be so many women who can relate to this & perhaps want to share their own very similar experiences with you
      can what you have described be in any way seen as an ‘act of love’ when you are being made to feel uncomfortable, guilty, pressured & silenced – because you are actually scared that if your feelings were mentioned it would be turned around or dismissed somehow
      no, its not right at all
      thinking of you x

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