My boyfriend keeps calling me a moron

[Jane14]

My boyfriend keeps caling me a moron. I have told him numerous times, it is very hurtful, but he has kept on doing it for the last (number removed by Moderator) months. He uses the excuse hinself, that he does it when he is hurt and upset.

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Your post caught my eye as I get called this too amongst many other things. It is really hurtful and the fact that he continues to do it despite knowing that it upsets you says that he doesn’t really care. If he is hurt or upset about something why does that make you a moron? Have you been with him a long time or is it a relatively new relationship? Either way this is a massive red flag, trying to put more emphasis on his feelings and disregarding yours, and – assuming the reason he is upset is because you’ve had a disagreement –  pretty much saying it’s your fault he calls you this.

[Jane14]

Hi. Thanks for your response. Yes, he says he doesn’t call people names unless they hurt him. But I feel that if he feels hurt he is entitled to call people names. I do not feel that he cannot control himself. I was with him for (timeframe removed by Moderator) before he started calling me a moron, but before this he called two of my friends moron. I also feel thar he is easily upset and perceives insult when no insult is actually intended. He says he is sensitive, and I have tried to be sensitive to his feelings. But he does not like it when I express that I am annoyed about something, and he perceives this as a slight. He reacts in these instances and calls me a moron.

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