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    • #146621
      nbumblebee
      Participant

      I just read a book One Good Thing by Alexandra Potter.
      It was a beautiful book about being brave enough to take a chance on one good thing then that thing changing your life your mindset it was beautiful and made me cry.
      I just passed my final exam.
      Dispite him trying everyday to get me to quit he woukd (detail removed by moderator) so I was forced to work in ny car. He accused me of having an affair when i came home late after studying moaned when i read instead of paying him attention and just made it almost impossible I passed.
      Its no secret on here how much self hate I have how i beat myself up but today I am ok with me I did it. Im sad that there is nobody to celebrate with nobody to say well done Im proud of you but I guess thats my life. But just for today whilst he is at work im sitting here celebrating my little win. Another brick removed from my wall.
      My one good thing was starting gym from there i came here from here I learnt and found support kindness and belief from there i got a job from there i got qualified and who knows where now.
      One Good Thing One Brave Step.

    • #146624
      Auriel
      Participant

      ๐Ÿฅ‚ well done nbumblebee
      ๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ˜—๐Ÿ’

      • #146640
        nbumblebee
        Participant

        Thank you feels flat now hes home and has taken away any good in my day but need to try abd hang on to that feeling I had earlier dont I. Xxxxx

      • #146660
        Auriel
        Participant

        Thereโ€™ll be more good moments hun, thereโ€™s more going on in your life now and your around better people, heโ€™s always gonna be that way until the day you decide your happiness is worth more than being tied to someone like that ๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’–

      • #146669
        nbumblebee
        Participant

        Thank you sweetie so much. It feels like every other part of my life is getting better and i want to be happy but he zaps it all away he cant be happy for me or concerned or proud talk always has to turn back to him. Makes me feel selfish and i doubt what I am doing all over again. X

      • #146675
        Auriel
        Participant

        Your not the selfish one โ€œhe isโ€ heโ€™s unsupportive, down putting and a manipulative saboteur of your happiness and progression, heโ€™s got his life heโ€™s just trying to wreck yours, ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿงก

    • #146630
      beachhut
      Participant

      So very well done, congratulations. ๐Ÿท๐ŸŒป

    • #146644
      Lisa
      Main Moderator

      Hello nbumblebee,

      I just wanted to also say a huge congratulations on passing your final exam. It is an even bigger accomplishment under the conditions we are aware you’ve been having to live and study in.

      I hope you are able to maintain the sense of achievement I can hear a little bit of in your post. This is a significant success which you have managed completely independently, and no one can take that away from you.

      Well done!

      Take care,
      Lisa

      • #146670
        nbumblebee
        Participant

        Thank you lisa thats so kind x

    • #146649
      longjourneylife
      Participant

      Oh huge congratulations!!! Very very well done, you can pat yourself on the back for an incredible achievement. What an inspiration!!! Celebrations ( even if only in your head and shared with us strangers!) Absolutely brilliant of you x*x

      • #146677
        nbumblebee
        Participant

        Am not sure i could ever be an inspiration but I love your words thank you so much for your support x

    • #146651
      Shazza
      Participant

      Brilliant nbumblebee, so thoroughly well deserved! Hold on to that feeling, you did this, you accomplished this all by yourself despite everything you are going through. That takes grit, strength and determination. We are all virtually celebrating with you ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰

      • #146679
        nbumblebee
        Participant

        I love this Thank you makes me feel less alone. Thank you so much xx

    • #146657
      Gerbil
      Participant

      Well done you! That’s a fantastic achievement! Don’t forget that feeling of feeling proud of yourself!
      Ps thank you for the book recommendation x

      • #146680
        nbumblebee
        Participant

        Its an amazing book that will stay with me for a very long time.
        Thank you for your support x

    • #146667
      Darknessallaround
      Participant

      We are proud of you nbumblebee, well done and congratulations! You have achieved something great in the face of overwhelming odds, never forget that this is your achievement, he can’t take that away from you.
      โค๏ธ

      • #146681
        nbumblebee
        Participant

        You are right darkness I did this I actually did it.
        Thank you for reminding me thank you so much xxxxx

    • #146690
      gettingtired
      Participant

      You’re amazing ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ’•๐ŸŽŠ๐Ÿ’Ÿ๐Ÿ’†๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿฅณ๐Ÿคฉ

      • #146769
        nbumblebee
        Participant

        Bless you wouldnt have done it without you. Thank you xx

    • #146695
      Twisted Sister
      Participant

      just had to come by and say congratulations, thats great news!

      I can hardly believe you have managed all this despite everything you have to cope with every day, but you have.

      You be proud of you! its a huge achievement!

      well done

      warmest wishes

      ts

      • #146796
        nbumblebee
        Participant

        Thank you I really was so so proud for a second but they have a way of twisting and turning things and he just made me feel so guilty for thinking about myself as he put it about how he cant achieve his dreams cause he has to work. How now i can stop and go back to being at home for him. Havent told him yet ive been accepted on another course that will go down well. But it helps to read these comments it really does. Xx

      • #146798
        Twisted Sister
        Participant

        well, you knew this would be a typical response from him. He was never going to be pleased at your successes. Look to the people who have your back, when it comes to receiving reasoned replies!

        He will always try to knock you down, but you are getting back up time and time again, and its important to be selfish and get your needs met under these circumstances.

        He’s selfish and cruel all the time, its rare that you are selfish and prioritise your goals that are for you.

        You see how he just sees this as a way for you to be back serving him better, so he’s being completely unreasonably selfish.

        Go you! Good luck for your next course!

        Warmest wishes

        ts

    • #146799
      Watersprite
      Participant

      I just wanted to say well done nbumblebee you passed your exam and have been accepted on to another course. This is fantastic! You should feel so proud even if a little bit. Iโ€™m proud of you and you are posting book choices for us thank you. You are working so hard on yourself and this is so obvious and well done for that too. Keep hold of your success it is yours alone no one did it but you. You canโ€™t control his reaction and as always it will be ๐Ÿ’ฉ but you can decide not to let him spoil your response to your fantastic achievement. It is yours and no one elses x*x

    • #146926
      Darknessallaround
      Participant

      Hope you have been able to hold onto the good feelings around your achievement and also remind yourself of, or re-read all the lovely supportive comments on here @nbumblebee

      I know you will be experiencing put-downs and pressure to not do any more studying, but that is because he is slowly losing control.
      RESIST
      Rise above it
      Expect that he will react badly and be prepared
      Show him he cannot intimidate you
      I am worth it (tell yourself that)
      Save your energy for putting yourself first, not him
      Tell yourself every day that you matter

      • #146951
        nbumblebee
        Participant

        Thank you so so much I needed this today been a rough few days and i just feel so alone so down.
        Its like i allow myself that little bit of pride in myself for a day or two then bang remember who you are nbumblebee you dont deserve to feel proud or happy.

        I needed this reminder darkness Thank you so very much xx

    • #146963
      Eggshells
      Participant

      Yay hey ๐Ÿฅ‚๐Ÿฅณ

      Well done. So proud of you!

      Loads of love you amazing lady. xx

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