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[Butternut]

Hi, I finally spoke to WA today and all I can say is my eyes have finally be opened. I suppose it usually takes for one incident in particular for people to see something isn’t right and get help and advice. For me, this all started while my husband was on a trip with my daughter. She told me how angry he was being and how unhappy she was. Yet again he had lost it with her and had a go at her in public and humiliated her. (detail removed by moderator) As soon as I confronted him he blamed me and was angry with me. Easier to deflect it isn’t it? Since they came back, I have not spoken a word to him. It’s so tense and awkward. (detail removed by moderator). He of course, is being extra nice to her and more attentive than he is most of the time. Obviously feeling guilty.

The problem is, I don’t want to tell him it’s over as he’ll get worse and I have to wait until we can move out.  But I can’t carry on this silence, it’s bizarre. (detail removed by moderator). Obviously building up his defence in anticipation for what might come next. I just wish me and the children could move out tomorrow and just get out of this atmosphere.

He is not violent, I wouldn’t even say coercive. More angry and n**********c if he’s been ‘wronged’. I’m just hoping my local support worker will get back to me soon. What usually happens next? I sent my self referral form in today. I am actually so excited to get out of all this and start again.

[Lisa]

Hi Butternut,

Thank you for your post and welcome to the forum. I’m sorry to hear about your situation. It must be difficult living in that atmosphere, your safety is really important so it is best that you have a plan in place before leaving.

As you mentioned one incident can help you reflect on everything and what you have been enduring. Its good that you have reached out to your local service for that ongoing support. If you have completed the self referral it may be a case of waiting for an allocated worker to contact you.

You have done the right thing by reaching out

Best Wishes

Lisa

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