This topic contains 2 replies, has 3 voices, and was last updated by  fizzylem 2 days, 10 hours ago.

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  • #87939
     teatime 
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    Me and my partner moved because I lost my job and home . I am an abuse survivor. I thought it was lovely at first but I do not know what to do now.
    The neighbour downstairs is noisy. She has loud sex with some man that just comes in very late and leaves soon after. This is 1-2 times a week but it wakes us up and makes me all jumpy. I have two quite serious chronic illnesses.. The rest of the time she makes a lot of general noise, talking very loudly etc.
    We complained to the landlord about the night time noise. I think she is probably very thick skinned and would not care or be embarrassed. I have not heard back yet. I asked my partner to deal with it.
    The first time I hear them having sex I was actually so upset that I yelled..
    All the other people are fairly quiet here, I really feel like I picked the wrong flat.
    It was so traumatic moving home, but feel like I need to move again. I am a really quiet person and noise upsets me… but wherever we can afford to rent it will be noisy I should think. We can’t afford this as it is.
    I was in my other place so long, a lifetime. I loved it because it was quiet. I miss the garden and my humble life there. I am crying as I write this.
    I feel so homesick and I can’t go home. I feel ashamed too, my partner did his best for me and I do not like the place. I think the walls are made of cardboard and I feel so brittle and broken.

  • #87962
     Escapee 
    Participant

    Hi teatime,

    It’s sounds like you’re having a really tough time 😔.

    Could your Dr help?? Xxxx

  • #88047
     fizzylem 
    Participant

    Hi Teatime, give yourself a bit of time to get used to it; sounds like you loved your last home and havent come to terms with the move yet. It may be that it is noisy and you’ll want to move again at some point, but it may be that wherever you go it wont come out on top when you compare it to the last place. It’s different and there may well be some good reasons why you both chose this place – perhaps you will make it work when you feel ready. Be with how you feel, process it and try to find a way to say goodbye to your old place if you can, resolve these feelings, because then you might beable to free yourself up to making a go of this place? Good luck with it. I find earplugs a godsend sometimes x

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