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      Confused23
      Participant

      So not a romantic relationship, a family relationship.

      Examples, silent treatment, lots of glaring. A few days of ok, walking on egg shells then a few days of not (to varying degree), Wondering around the house up and down the (detail removed by moderator) early hours of the morning talking to themsleves ‘loudly’ about how rubbish you are. Lots of text messages, tellling you all the things you do wrong or don’t get right etc. Feels a bit jekyll/hyde, smallest thing can set them off. Went for (detail removed by moderator) with a neighbour, spoke to a neighbour over the fence, went to the shop to pick up the click and colllect and didn’t ask the to go. If you ask them to go anywhere ‘you are just asking them and don’t want them there’, if you don’t ask them to go somewhere then again, similar. Once didn’t answer texts ‘(detail removed by moderator)’ as soon as got to a place with signal then received messages and replied and they come back with they thought you’d blocked them. You say you hadn’t, but they don’t believe you. Go to a shop and then come back and questioning if you had an appointment, you expalin you went to a shop, they carry on that they thought you must have an appointment. Mentioned once that they talk to GP/counsellor about mood fluctuations and they said ‘(detail removed by moderator)’. Had times them taking photos off the wall and putting them in (detail removed by moderator) and saying they wish they hadn’t had a family. Once they were in a mood & I needed to study, I went elsewhere, they put random stuff in a black bin bag and came to where I was and dumped it. Went (detail removed by moderator) once, they woudln’t go, then turned up on their own, completely ignoring me, and at the end of every single length glaring at me. (just a few examples)

    • #171878
      lover of no contact
      Participant

      Hi and welcome,

      To be on the end of that treatment is soul-destroying. It’s hard to not be walking on egg shells around this extremely bullying behaviour. You did the right thing reaching out here and posting. You are in the right place. Keep posting your feelings on here. Very hard to be around that kind of toxic behaviour. I found that with those types of people I try go minimum contact with them; without them knowing I’m going minimum contact with them. But I know it’s not easy to minimise interactions with them if you’re living with them. You will get support with this difficult situation by being on here. Keep posting.

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