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    • #122183
      Fairylady
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      Hi all,

      I got out of my abusive relationship, and I was strong enough to stay away!! Its been months of no contact, he has tried to contact me but I have not responded once.
      So I have a very good friendship with my previous ex partner before him and still close with him and his family. The abusive partner has gone onto dating website and pinpointed this exes sister.
      He has then gone on to speak about me saying that I had cheated with my previous partner and on him and is trying to cause friction with people I care about with lies!!! Luckily she is smarter and realised and told me. But im unsure what to do with this?
      The police have been aware of every incident previously when we were together. But I don’t understand why after months and months of no contact, why try and f**k up my life again? Is there anything I can do? I dont have any contact with him and won’t be doing either.
      Any advice would be appreciated

      Thanks

    • #122193
      Darcy
      Participant

      Hi my beautiful angel … Fairlady,
      Well done for getting out and move forward.
      I’m guessing your ex knows that you are moving forward so thought he’d throw in a curve ball.
      Like you say people will see through this kind of behaviour and while I understand it is not nice for you, don’t give it any attention as that’s what he wants.
      If you have reported things to the police in the past then it wont hurt to register this as I am sure there is some law against it… sorry I don’t know to much about the legal stuff.
      My ex sent revenge porn to all my email contacts and put up a (detail removed by Moderator) page on me that took (detail removed by Moderator) years to take down… the police weren’t interested in helping me with any of this.
      Although it was hurtful and I felt shame, I tried not to give him the satisfaction of engaging in his circus show and just used my energy to focus on me.
      My darling you are doing so well, just keep moving forward and do not let this set you back… if anything use it to make you stronger and confirm that you did the right thing.
      Sending you love and support
      Darcy xx

    • #122223
      Fairylady
      Participant

      Wow, thats horrific that you went through that. You are so strong for getting through it all though. Thankyou for the advice, luckily I have a friend in the police and she is looking at what can be done about it for me now.
      I’m lucky to have the support I’ve got
      Thankyou so much Darcy, you sound like an amazing woman x

    • #122238
      Darcy
      Participant

      Thank you Fairylady,
      We are all amazing ladies and we need to never forget this
      I hope things get sorted for you quickly
      Stay strong and in your power
      D xx

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