parents evening

[diymum@1]

My daughter came home (detail removed by moderator) saying there are very little spaces at parents evening so her parents should be able to get along for at least ten minites surely to goodness??

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I am writing to let you know I am not going to be able to attend ….. parent’s night as scheduled. I understand that there are limited times but I would prefer to come in to see you on a separate day if thats ok. I would like to explain that I have a court order of no contact as far as …..s dad is concerned.She has not had contact with him since 201….That is because there is a background of domestic abuse towards me in front of her.He was throwing objects at my face and verbally intimidaing on many occasions – some documented by the police (this is now classed by law as child abuse) He also verbally abused ….. during his contact time so the decision was made by the courts that neither off us see him directly again. I have support from women’s aid so I know this is my right not to be put in a position where we feel scared. I understand this is a difficult and taboo subject but i feel it has to be raised in our best interest especially for the sake of my child

I will get in touch with the school to arrange an alternate day. Alternatively you could give …..a time and day that would suit.

Best wishes

[Escapee]

Well done diymum!

I can’t believe the teacher was so insensitive!

If she says it’s not possible, that’s rubbish. Call the school and ask to speak with their child protection officer…… they’ll sort it out.

PM me if you need more information. X*x

[diymum@1]

hi and thanks – ive had lots of problems with the school tbh. they just dont take it seriously. it feels like they are interested only in the families that have no worries. thats great but just not the real world. im still mad! so angry xxxx you know i might just pull out their policy on CP. the teacher is very young im guessing they dont cover dv in teacher training? xx

[KIP.]

Hey, well done you. You would think her teacher would be well aware of this for the safety of a child in her care? The school has a duty of care x

[Escapee]

Unfortunately they don’t cover DA in child protection. You get taught to notice stuff like lack of dental visits but not DA!?

I’d suggest making an appointment to see the Head, take copies of your court orders and insist that they adhere to them.

I will say that CP issues are not always relayed to teaching staff due to some misguided rules relating to the child’s privacy – this is obviously crazy when it affects the safety and well-being of the child.

I’d be interested to know how you get on.

Good luck x*x

[diymum@1]

thanks to you both – the thing is when they order no contact thats it they dont automatically take his pr away so he can ask the school how shes doing and he can go to parents night but she isnt to have direct contact. i never ever got a written court order it was just reduced to nil. i do have a report from an adlitem. the thing is and KIP might remember this the head teacher was insistant when i was seeking out sole custody that she wasnt taking sides. the school just stepped back on her instruction and that was it no help at all xxxx i will keep you posted at the moment im just going to get a different day BUT i need to arrange for my daughter to be collected now from school just in case she crosses his path. im at work so my new partner will go its all really stressful xx not organised or safe at all

[Iwantmeback]

Hi DIYmum, the school has to offer separate appointments in situations like this. Hope all goes well for you.
you can always go to the council as school answer to them or the board of directors if push comes to shove.
IWMB 💞💞

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