Partners taken the kids

[Firsttimedivorcee]

Ex has been covert abusive for years. I genuinely think there’s something mentally not right with him but he won’t see that and we are suffering. I decided to divorce. Since then, his say do ratio is completely off.

he will say, I’ll acknowledge the divorce notice, but then goes on to blank it.
we put the house for sale, he removes it without telling me or getting my permission,
(timeframe removed by Moderator) he messaged to say he wanted to keep the kids (timeframe removed by Moderator). To drop them to him on a day and pick them up on another. I asked him, is he taking them away. He said (communication removed by Moderator). I have since seen that he left with a suitcase in hand and the kids. I called them (timeframe removed by Moderator) and know where they are, with family (distance removed by Moderator) away.

I miss them so much. I wouldn’t have stopped them from going or kicked up a fuss. But my heart just keeps dropping. He is a good dad but they can be a bit much. One of our biggest arguments were that he wanted them to have a nanny for (timeframe removed by Moderator) that they’re at home. I refused. He didn’t like that I gave them too much attention. He has sleep apnea and struggles to stay awake. I am sure nothing bad will happen to them but my heart hurts. I feel like all I want is for them to be home, or at least somewhere I could get to them within a few mins.

I realise this might just sound like an overprotective mum but the kids have always been my responsibility. He has been the dad when it suits.

 

i just feel sad. I don’t know what this post will do. I feel ‘regret’ in that had I not applied for divorce, I would see them all the time. But he isn’t going to change and too much of me has changed in fixing him.

[Better-days]

Hi hunni I don’t know where ur partner has taken kids is it a holiday and he will be back soon? I can’t be one hundred percent sure but if he has taken kids out country without your permission I think it’s illegal. So u could maybee seek advice on this I can imagine how distressing this situation is for you I would be very Upset so your feeling are normal and this should not be happening to you. I hope u are ok please seek advice on this x

[Firsttimedivorcee]

They should be home at (timeframe removed by Moderator) but the weather is really bad. And I just worry for them. He had taken them within the uk and is very clever, he would’ve checked his rights.

 

im okay. I think it’s a bitter pill to swallow when you realise the person you loved can’t even confirm where he’s taking the kids. It is nice for them to be able to get away and enjoy themselves, I expected courtesy- silly me.

[swanlake]

This sounds like such a worrying time for you. How might you feel about calling the police and social services with your concerns that the children are at risk?

It sounds like you have some kind of contact with them but you also have rights to see your children. Will they be due back at school soon? School could be another supporter for you.

[Firsttimedivorcee]

He’s going to bring them home (timeframe removed by Moderator). So I will give it time. I feel like we are d****d either way. The police won’t do much and I don’t want it to backfire on me exaggerating how worried I was.

honestly i’ve made it through knowing I’ll see them soon. And he was being ‘nice’ (timeframe removed by Moderator) whilst sharing his plans for travel etc. I just felt sick looking at his messages. If he had a bit of care, he would’ve just told me where he was taking them. But they do the damage and then apologise for it later.

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