Peace at last

[Haven]

It has been a long journey since leaving after a 30+ year marriage. I made this giant step in the Spring this year & cannot believe I have managed to continue without going back! Don’t get me wrong, the urge to return has visited me many times.

Divorce is moving in right direction just need finances to be finalised.

I am in control of me! Relaxing when I’m not working, visiting friends and family. Beginning to get excited about my new future. I feel strong but at the same time numb? The tears don’t come often these days.

This time of year is tricky as it’s for family and this will be the first year we are apart. I am going to my folks with my sister so it will be special. I’m not feeling sorry for him.

A New Year on the horizon with a new life for ME 🥰

 

[bov94]

Hi Haven,

Wow, how wonderful to read, sounds like you have come very far in a relatively short period of time. You are amazing and even though I don’t know you I feel so happy for you with all the positivity and hope radiating from your post.

My marriage was also very long so I am finding being apart from my ex very difficult, despite the circumstances of the separation and the nature of our relationship. Your post has lifted me, as I can see there is light ahead of me too.

[Sad and alone]

So happy for you. My relationship is also a very long one and i think you become so accustomed to life as it is that it’s hard to detach. It’s just nice to read someone in a similar length of relationship has been able to move forward. It gives me hope of a normal life one day! Enjoy your Christmas with those that love you xx

[Haven]

Hi Bov94,

Thank you for replying.

Great that you are feeling hopeful & this New Year’s Eve really will be a fresh start, welcoming the unknown ahead in 2025 🥳🥂 Stay positive & count your blessings.

[Haven]

Hi there Sad and alone,

Our relationships have been long but we have many more years ahead of us to live a positive, happy life !

Hope you can be with someone who loves you this Christmas but if not, love yourself & do all that brings you joy 😊

I have been reconnecting with friends so most weekends are busy but feel like a bag lady 😏 I’ve been sleeping in so many different places over these months, it’s very unsettling. Take care of YOU ❤️

[Yesican]

It’s so lovely to read this Haven. Well done you!

I know that urge to return and how wise and positive that we don’t cave into it.

Wishing you a peaceful, positive holiday time. It IS a tricky time of year but we’ll get through it and then on into a new future for a New Year.

[Better-days]

You should be so proud of yourself well done.

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