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[Chocolatebunnie]

Feeling positive

A few years back my kids psychiatrist referred us for family therapy and we all went.

Therapist saw a wonderful man, my husband, and a complicated family. He was struggling that was the problem and I was quiet, it didn’t feel safe to speak up.

Forward to this past year and we are referred back to her again, my child was suicidal and psychiatrist thought our family needed help. Family tensions had let go my child’s mental health decline. I’m sure psychiatrist knows enough as has been involved with 2 of our children.

This time I saw the therapist without my husband I’ve been fairly frank and therapist is understanding more than I expected. I never expected any understanding and was very reluctant to speak with them.

Therapist is to the point said I needed help to divorce, I should get legal advice, asked about intimacy and knew exactly how it’s is that intimacy is to keep the peace, was disgusted by our financial situation that I have to ask for money and don’t always get what is needed, that he moved himself back home and how he did it. I still hold back.

I know there’s concern about the younger children bearing in mind the teens mental health issues and I wonder how concerned she is and if there some thoughts as to the impact my husband may have in this all.

So far this has been so supportive.

Therapist understood that I would need to be ready and there would be a time when it is right for us to separate. That there a lot going on regardless I may need my husband at the moment and weighing things up is what was needed to make the right choices for me.

So strange to speak to someone who understands, no pressure. I wonder if she has had trading in domestic abuse?

As I say this felt positive although I have a way to go.

[KIP.]

That’s great news. Do you have support from womens aid or your local domestic abuse charity. That’s where I felt a real connection x

[Footballfan1]

Well done for speaking honestly Chocolatebunnie.
That takes a lot of courage.
Keep posting on here, share experiences and people will relate on here and share back.

Keep in touch with that therapist, they sound great and supportive.
I hope you get the help you need for your children, truly I can’t imagine what you are going through.
Stay strong xx

[Chocolatebunnie]

I’ve not had great support from local services, twice now for different reasons so I’m lacking confidence.

Last time she gave up on me when my husband moved himself back home, against my wishes, and was told I had had more time with the service (6 months was max allowed) and would have to re refer if I needed help.

I’m seeing this therapist a few more times until they retire.

He’s showing his true colours again so I need to do something.

CB X

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