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      Hello, I’m new to this forum. I’m quite nervous about posting because I’m usually so self sufficient.

      My marriage ended, not long ago, after a long time of controlling and verbally abusive behaviour and I’m only just learning that I have any value and my needs are important. The end was quite drastic, he set fire to our home and destroyed everything, after promising I would be left with nothing,. His wish came true.

      I’m gradually dealing with things with the support of women’s aid, a couple of good friends and my daughter, who is also dealing with her own trauma.

      He left me with nothing but gave me my freedom and on good days that’s enough.

      I have found my silver lining.

      Everyone on this forum is a survivor. Please look for your silver lining.

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      Hi vivet
      I have recently left a n********t and went no contact for a few days but then my children wanted to see there daddy so I let them they now don’t want to come home to me as he is being super dad and buying them everything they are having the time of there life’s (I no it won’t last) but all though my heart is broken that my children don’t want to come home the feeling of being free from him is the best feeling in the world I’m hoping in time things will settle and the children will get into a routine he wants (detail removed by Moderator) custody so I’m hoping we can come to a agreement x

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      Main Moderator

      Hi Vivet,

      Welcome to the Forum and thank you for posting. I am so sorry to hear of what you have been through. I hope you find the Forum a supportive place to be with other Survivors. Thank you for your positivity and for sharing with us.

      Please do keep posting to us when you are able to.

      Best wishes,


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