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    • #11739
      betterdays
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      God knows how to write this can’t stop crying. I’m so desperate. And shaking. My family again had started my mum rang and said my dad no longer wants my autistic son to go to the pub to him again as he’s annoying. This has tipped me over the edge so I got myself a drink wbich I don’t usually do. I ended up phoning the ex up he came round we had gone to bed to sleep but about (removed my moderator) when I were half asleep I felt his hand between my legs I sadly went ing with it which all the time I thought about what I learnt on the freedom programme the sexual controller. After I sobbed and he said what have I done now? I’m downstairs I’m in a state sobbing disgusted low feel like everyone is against us. Please help x

    • #11740
      SilkyHalide
      Participant

      Better days, hugs to you.
      It’s so hard when we are so used to turning to them for comfort. He’s taken advantage of you when you are in emotional and intoxicated state.

      Please try and speak to someone now at WA
      Can you ask him to leave?

      • #11742
        betterdays
        Participant

        Hi yes he will have to go I’m terrified alone downstairs crying while he’s laid upstairs asleep feel like dying x

    • #11741
      SilkyHalide
      Participant

      Helpline number above

    • #11743
      SilkyHalide
      Participant

      I lost someone recently and ended up letting my ex sort of hug me even though I didn’t want to. He’s also tried to get me to go to bed with him in past months saying just to sleep I managed to say no but let him stay in the house.
      Please don’t blame yourself. He is responsible for his actions and knows he is crossing the line.

      • #11745
        betterdays
        Participant

        Thanks silky halide. The part when I started crying straight after and him saying what have I done now? Proves things x

    • #11744
      SilkyHalide
      Participant

      Are you in danger asking him to leave?

    • #11746
      SilkyHalide
      Participant

      Please ring helpline they can advise you and ask you the right questions to help you decide what to do. Xx

    • #11747
      betterdays
      Participant

      No I’m not in danger he’s upstairs asleep I’m on couch I want him out in morning first thing don’t want to say anything now when kids asleep x

    • #11748
      SilkyHalide
      Participant

      Yes he’s transferring his anger or guilt or both onto you.

    • #11749
      SilkyHalide
      Participant

      Yes that’s what I did slept on couch but didn’t get much sleep. Xx

    • #11750
      SilkyHalide
      Participant

      I have made new friends in support group so when I need someone I ring them not him. WA may be able to point you to local group.
      I was so isolated by him I had no one but now I have a number of people I can trust.

    • #11751
      SilkyHalide
      Participant

      Hope you are feeling a bit better Hun. I’m going to bed now but do ring helpline if you feel worse again, they really can make a difference even if just talking it through. Xx

    • #11766
      Confused123
      Participant

      HI Hun

      hope u got him out and r feeling better today, just see it as part of closure and maybe this happening has made u realize u cant rely on him for support as he thinks of his own needs

    • #11768
      Serenity
      Participant

      Don’t beat yourself up, Better Days.

      Think of the situation: your mother’s unkind words triggered you, so you were immediately made to feel vulnerable and ended up allowing him in, etc.

      Maybe this is a sign that you should begin to distance yourself from your mother- and your ex- take the new house, and go?

      You and your boys deserve to be treated well and spoken about kindly.

      You’ll be ok, Better Days.

      I hope he has left and gone.

      Let us know how you are.

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