That’s a great feeling to be in charge of your own affairs and managing your own life. We always were capable but our abusers being so bossy and domineering and wanting to control everything, took over. Or other times they left all responsibilities to us, taking advantage of our helpful, kind natures, until we were run ragged and then then complained when things went wrong or didn’t meet their unrealistically high expectations. They could get it wrong but we couldn’t.
So true Lover of no contact, at first I use to sort out everything and then due to an illness I thought I didn’t want him unable to do anything, so I supported him to learn. Then he thought he could do it so much better than I could more times than not he got it wrong but I lost the will to say anything.