Questioning my sanity

[Onetoomanytimes]

Hi I’m new here, feeling nervous and anxious.
My story in a snippet growing up I see my dad physically hurt my mum along with him taking his anger out on my siblings and I. My mum finically broke free. (detail removed by Moderator) I started living independently was in a relationship he pushed me to get a flat ( I see now this was to get me away from my family) (detail removed by Moderator) years down the line after many physically lashings I had enough I finally got him to leave. (detail removed by Moderator) months on met someone new who I thought was lovely I see the same happening I split from him which resulted in another beating( started to believe this was normal) (detail removed by Moderator) years on I felt ready for a new relationship. Which was when I met my current partner, all was good some things I though oo that’s odd and feels familiar (detail removed by Moderator) years on he has never physically hurt me but lots of threats to if I do somthing he dosnt like this could be hanging out with a friend he dosnt like or smoking (detail removed by Moderator). But the stress of (detail removed by Moderator) got to me. So I thought he wouldn’t mind (detail removed by Moderator). I do not do it in front of him but it is a major problem for him which I understand but at the same time I’ve been controlled since being a young girl. The responses I get from him spiral into so many things but always boils down to (detail removed by Moderator). The name calling punching my (detail removed by Moderator) so it smashed. Smashing things round the house and the unopened threats of (detail removed by Moderator) this triggers my cptsd when I tell him this is says get over it victim which sends my mind into over drive. Am I over reacting? He threatens that he will hurt anyone else I get into a relationship with( put off for life at this point) he has no interaction with my family and friends only goes to events with his family my birthday or Christmas is not a special occasion. (detail removed by Moderator) years on I am feeling super deflated and nervous for the ending

[Bananaboat]

Are you over reacting? Doesn’t sound like it no. Abuse isn’t always physical, it sounds like this man is the verbal and emotional abuser. Threats and actions to make you behave how he wants you to now and if you leave him, are abuse. I’m so sorry you’ve had all these experiences, can you get out safely?

[Living Warrior]

I agree, I don’t think you are over reacting. I wrote a post about pat Craven’s living with the dominator.. if you click on my profile you can view my posts … Or Google pat Craven’s living with the dominator … It gives you the run down of different masks abusers use… Some use one or two… Some use all of them. But that will help you to understand it’s not you that’s wrong!
I would get in touch with women’s aid in your area and ask for help to get out safely if you cannot do it alone.. good luck xx

[Onetoomanytimes]

Thank you for your replies. Part of me is still attached to him I don’t know why. We haven’t been communicating verbally for (detail removed by Moderator) months or it’s been extremely minimum everything is over text could be up too 50 messages a day and he sends ? Over and over if I don’t answer straight away so I feel awkward if I’m mid convo with someone my brain is telling me to reply so I feel like I’m not even in the convo again I feel guilty to who ever I could be talking to it’s so odd. He tells me he is leaving but never does and gives me the guilt trip. It’s odd he didn’t speak to me when I’m home but as soon as I go out the compulsive texts start sometimes my brain feels likes it’s about to burst out my head. I will make sure it’s a safe environment I’m hoping I’ll be able to move soon

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