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      Hi, I realise this might be quite a common thing to think for someone who has exited abuse…but has anyone, as a result of their experiences, decided to retrain and become a clinical psychologist. And is this a really stupid idea?

      I did originally train in a (detail removed by Moderator) profession but my ex did a very good job at persuading me to give it all up, which I did. I think the n********t in him couldn’t cope with my attention being on other people. I then learnt a new profession and I just don’t get the feeling in the pit of my stomach that I did earlier on in my life about my work. I don’t know if this is just age, and that as you get older you just realise work is a bit boring but has to be done. OR can it be exciting and interesting? This is how I feel about learning to become a psychologist, it feels more me, yes I am an empath, which is probably what got me to the abusive relationship, but it does have a lot of plus points too, and I enjoy learning about the brain, and people, and seem to have a good ability for it too. Someone on here said they thought Id be a good advocate for DA. My questions is, is this a good idea or is it really stupid, and is it better to move on, totally out of the area and concentrate on something else, not associated to brains and people and behaviours…. I feel I’ve learnt so much this past year and that it would be good to put it to good use. mmmmm don’t know, just talking it out. Anyone else have these feelings. Its not so much DA in particular, its psychology, all of it, and the way people behave and feel. What do you think? Thanks. x

    • #118930

      Go for it. I did a night school course on psychology and counselling and found it fascinating and it also helped me to gain some knowledge about my own behaviour. There were many on the course who had had problems in their own life and had decided to go down this route. It’s taken me several years for the headspace to start to return because of trauma. I’m still not sure how good I’d be face to face with a victim. I think it might be too triggering still but if you find it’s something you’re passionate about then definitely go for it. Further education in the current climate is a good choice too as there is definitely going to be a need for counselling and therapy after this pandemic. You’ve lots of experience so why waste it. I’m making my experience work in my favour now. Turning a negative into a positive x

    • #118936

      Go for it. I work in a related field. I never thought I’d end up in not one but two abusive relationships! Like you say our empathy can draws us to rescue. I’m doing a lot of work on myself right now. I love my work abs my personal experiences have deepened my capacity to help others. What a fantastic opportunity to turn a negative into a positive. The wounded healers ❤️

    • #118938

      I think this sounds like a great idea. I don’t think it sounds stupid at all. I think being able to help other people after what you’ve experienced would be satisfying. It sounds like you would be wonderful too xx

    • #118947

      Great idea! You would probably get a lot out of a role where you could be a survivor’s advocate.

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