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  • #96223

    I think this song relates so much, i find it makes me motivated. She had to lose him, to love her self again.

  • #96224

    If you listen to all the words sang it hits a nerve, a range of emotions but definitely a motivated positive one xx

  • #96225

    Yeah it really resonated with me too, particularly; “you got off on the hurting, when it wasn’t yours”.

    But it still made me feel sad when she said, “and now the chapter is closed and done, and now it’s goodbye, it’s goodbye for us” because we know, from trauma bonding, that its so painful to close the door on an abusive relationship. I know from my own experience I did it over and over again, knowing full well it was not the end. But then suddenly it was and it’s like a whole era of your life, and all your hopes and dreams for that relationship, have come to end.

    I salute her for writing that song. It is so simple yet it sums it up. You do have to lose your abuser if you can have any hope of ever loving yourself x

  • #97221

    I love this song! The lyrics are powerful, I cried.

  • #98111

    Love this song it’s so true and meaningful ❤️

  • #98198

    Thanks for sharing this song. I really like it. It seems written from the heart. I love the lyrics ‘(you) set fire to my forest’ and ‘sang off key in my chorus’ and ‘you set fire to my purpose.’

    It really resonated with me because my ex tried to sabotage my career dream and my productivity plummeted, and his presence in my life was like a metaphorical bomb. They try to destroy us to serve them and they don’t care.
    Well done Selena, it’s great she learned all this so young.

  • #98214

    Completely agree, so accurate but also makes me feel sad, I have to be in quite a strong place to be able to listen to it x

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