This topic contains 8 replies, has 8 voices, and was last updated by  freedomtochoose 6 months ago.

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  • #68912

    I have been single since I fled over four years ago and it has been so good for me.
    All I do is focus on myself and my healing.
    I take as much time as I need for everything I do and do not need to explain myself to anybody.
    My place is fully decorated for Christmas. The Christmas tree is just lovely.
    I was not allowed to have a Christmas tree nor any decoration.
    It is wonderful that I can do what I want now.
    My choice of clothes has changed too.
    I am going back to what I liked before.
    Slowly I am becoming me again.
    It takes years though, but I have time now and nobody can interfere in this process. I take care of that.

  • #68914

    What a lovely positive post @ayanna. Thank you for sharing how you’re life is now to what it was💕 Merry Christmas to you🍾🎄🤶🎅

  • #68925

    Sat with a smile on my face, lovely post,this year it was a struggle putting the tree up, but my daughter did it, but im glad she did.
    Enjoy your Christmas💕🎄

  • #68930

    Single too for the same amount of time and loving it. All those worries in the early days stemmed from low self esteem and confidence. No one to hold me back. What adventures we can have when we are freeeeeeee 🎄

  • #68935

    I’m dreaming of the day I too can be free. 🙂

  • #69009

    So lovely to hear. You are an inspiration. Happy holidays to you.

  • #69014
     lover of no contact 

    Me too single for (detail removed by moderator) years and loving it. Haven’t even been on a date but have had a crush but over it now thankfully. I’m glad I have the time to focus on my self-care and my goals and developing interests. Someone said the other day that having a man in your life takes up a lot of your time. Lol. I have needed that time over the last few years so being single was a blessing.

    Wonderful post for where you’re at Ayanna, thank you for that.

  • #69016

    Me too 🙂 And nowhere near thinking about another relationship just yet – still figuring out who I am after all that has happened.

  • #69019

    well done yous. we too have awomen’s Christmas. Daughter doing Christmas tree decorations.
    all best

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