Slapped me hard

[I.dont.know.]

I was joking around with my other half and I slapped him on the arm he responded by slapping me really hard on the arm which hurt a lot. Is this a normal reaction? Is it t*t for tap I slapped him so he did it back?

[Lisa]

Hello I.dont.know,

I’m so sorry to hear this has happened.

Sadly abusers will use any excuse to escalate the abuse or to behave violently or intimidatingly towards us. It’s absolutely not okay for him to hit you under any circumstance, and he may use the excuse ‘you hit me first’ with full knowledge that his disproportionate retaliation may cause pain or injury. Someone who is not abusive would not find any satisfaction in hurting their partner.

It’s never acceptable to hit someone, but you’re right it was not a normal reaction, his behaviour was not appropriate or reasonable.

Thank you for sharing this, it’s important to be aware of these behaviours early as abuse does escalate over time and physical abuse can become really dangerous. Please be mindful of your safety and consider a plan in case you feel unsafe at any time.

Take care and keep posting,
Lisa

[Dootson]

Hey I Don’t know, Hope you are well. I work in (detail removed by moderator), lots of regulars, we have banter n often have little digs at each other, if anyone ever hits too hard its spoken about immediately and most often ends in the offending ‘digger’ to apologise and its (detail removed by moderator). IF the retalitory dig was a show of power of you that would be a red flag to me. He should be protecting you. If he hit too hard I would expect him to have apologised. Hope you are ok x

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