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With involvement and support from various organisations I’m feeling isolated still, sounds selfish doesn’t it, I should be and I am grateful.
I only have one friend and I have spent time with her but can’t discuss anything with her even if I could trust her she wouldn’t understand.
I feel guilty, sad, frightened, confused and haven’t a clue what I’m doing with my life or where I’m going.
Just wondering at the moment am I crazy, making this up, overreacting and switching to convincing myself what I’ve see. Is not right, what I’ve felt is wrong and what I experience is toxic or abuse.
Honestly head is spinning and don’t know how to cope with it all.
CB x
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Hi CB
Sending you heaps of strength and hugs for this difficult process. I guess there are bound to be some very down days, feelings of isolation, and so glad that you have connected with so many here so you feel you are among others that understand and can hopefully help a bit with those feelings of isolation. I know its not perfect and I hope you are able to use those that should be providing support to you. Is there any end in sight? Does anyone give you any idea of how long a process it will be, as that can help to know it will be ending at some point!
If you are having some better weather at the moment try to make the most of it with your children, and be out, free, in the sunshine somewhere they and you enjoy.
Hoping this will be over for you soon.
warmest wishes
ts
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Hi ts
Thanks for your reply, I don’t know anything yet. SS are about to talk to him so he’s aware and asking us all if it came from us. I am struggling with how to act amongst many difficult feelings and still struggling with should I stay/leave but wonder if this is now no longer my decision.
It’s a strange waiting game
CB X
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It sounds a scary place to be. I thought SS had acknowledged that the ‘complaint’ would have to come from a ‘different direction’? What has happened to this? Its vital that they work to protect you all and not put you all in the line of further risk.
I am so shocked that despite all the awareness now of DV, that its not being incorporated into the daily working practises of these entitities. Its just like it doesn’t really exist isn’t it? I would love some day for SS to actually recognise the signs of abuse and protect women and children, instead of being short-sighted about the pattern of behaviour that is evident.
Can you raise this again with SS or your DA worker?
warmest wishes
ts
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I know how you feel, I’m in limbo stage with lots of professional support in place yet feeling like I’m wading through treacle. I’ve started doubting whether what I went through was actually abusive, I think it’s because I’m out of it & not used to the calm. His bail should have ended (removed by moderator) but I’ve discovered it’s been extended yet I’m still waiting for a police update, I feel forgotten.
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Dear Twix
Sorry to hear you feel forgotten 🙁 I hope you find support and solace here.
Are you doing some reaching out to keep tabs on whats happening with your case? Do you have any family liaison keeping you up to date? Do you have DV support locally? You can use the chat facility on here to speak with the WA support online who can give you non-judgemental support and further sign-posting.
I hope you feel free to keep posting on here.
warmest wishes
ts
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Lets just take a moment to realise how brave and amazing you have and are being.
You spoke out you got help and that really isnt easy at all I admire you. Take a breath.
Of course you will dobt and fear and worry feel lonley exhausted this isnt easy sweetie none of it is but look how far you have come look at what you have achieved.
All I can say is keep taking those foward steps that end hoal is now closest to you than its ever been so keep going sweetie.
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CB, I feel for you and where you are… keep pushing forwards, I know it is frightening and you will have so many conflicting emotions… my head was a wreck, I went on antidepressants as that’s what I needed and like you, I have lots of support.. that final step to walk away and what that entails scared me too much to think about the entire mountain, try to break it down hour by hour if need be
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Thanks HFH thank you for sharing this with me.
It’s been a strange day, week, month and my head is filled with what to do constantly I know it’s not healthy and feels obsessive. My nerves are bad and it shows. I’ve tried medication but couldn’t tolerate it.
Not as much support as I had hoped for unfortunately.
I feel like I’m never going to fix things.
But yes hour by hour is the way forward just now.
CB x
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thinking of you too love and sending every ounce of stength to you for this. I know its hard, and it will naturally mess with your head. At the most difficult of times you must do all you can to look after yourself, any time you can get out, just walking, grabbing any peace you can anywhere for however long it lasts.
I will go check your other post on the outcome, baby steps, be easy on yourself, you need all the love and support you can get.
warmest wishes
ts
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Hey CB
Today is a new day and your life is completely dictated by the quality of the thoughts that you have. I wish you kind and good thoughts today. You are never alone when so many others are feeling exactly the same as you.
I hope you can take courage and inspiration from the words in this, you need to feel this song: (detail removed by Moderator)
Love and hugs xx
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If of any help, you are not alone. I wosh I could tell you what works or when woll it end but I am not therw myself. We have to keep gping. It is terribly sad. It doesn’t fwel like it will ever ebd. But there are those who managed not only to escape but to overcome the trauma. We are alive and out and can be greatfull for life. I wish you well. Just keep gping.
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I was very down and was during the weekend too, but have had time to process and speak with DA support this morning too.
My head is much clearer today, you replies meant so much, really helped including the song, Needtoclarify 💕
Wasn’t able to reply on here at weekend for obvious reasons but read and reread replies, really helped me get through.
love and hugs back to you all CB X
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