Stuck with no progess from my ex, is it coercive control.

[Startingtogo]

It’s been a long time getting to this point and I am now finally pushing for the divorce my ex started nearly (number removed by Moderator) years ago.

I am desperate for it to be over and all the ties that bind gone.  My ex started the online divorce process but since then has ignored all requests to engage with settlement orders, mediation and progressing the divorce.  Solicitor letters are ignored and if I do hear anything back it’s for trivial things.

In these past (number removed by Moderator) years there have been multiple restraining orders breaches and court things, I have had enough and want some peace.

I feel like I will never leave this hell of a relationship and this is just more ‘punishment’ on top of years of abuse. I just want to move on and away but can’t as my ex is stalling.  At times, at it’s worst, it’s unbearable and I don’t know what to do.

Is this another form of coercive control?  I’m not sure what you’ve do next.

[EvenSerpentsShine]

Yes it does sound like this is just another way to punish you, (and also make it difficult for you just to move on and forget him).Win, win for him.

I am not a solicitor and don’t know how this works,  but is it possible for him to hold things up like this? Can’t you just push ahead and get things sorted in a timely manner? Surely he should be given a time limit to reply and then the process just moves on without him?

some people talk about pushing divorce through in a very short time. When you ask your solicitor about this what is the explanation? Does it mean he can hold the divorce up forever just by not answering letters and requests?

[Startingtogo]

Thanks so much for your comments.  I’ll see what my solicitor can suggest but it’s so hard trying to deal with my ex.

 

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